The phone just rang and it was Anthony.
“When are you coming to pick me up?”
Then a nurse came on the phone to say she had dialled for him and we had a short discussion about this evening confusion thing. She handed the phone back to Ants.
“I’m at … I’m at Petunia Park – I’ve been waiting for you to come over too.”
“Ants, you’re not at Petunia Park, you are at the nursing home and I’ll be in tomorrow again okay?”
The conversation went on for a bit longer but he calmed down with the help of the nurse.
I have reserved a little bit of my heart for these occasions – that way my whole heart doesn’t get ripped to shreds, just the little bit.
jmgoyder 
So sorry Julie… HUGS
It’s okay – has been happening a lot – HUGS back!
Sending calming thoughts across the miles to ensure you don’t ‘lose it’ in exasperation, frustration………………OR, too much loving.
Remember to ‘pace your Emotional & Energy Reserves’, (just as I pace my activity to avoid an exacerbation of pain each day).
Thanks Victoria – you are such a great person and everything you say makes sense!
A big hearted woman then.
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So sorry. Prayers for you.
It’s okay – this is now the new normal.
Sorry I forgot to say thanks!!!!
I guess it just does’t get any easier – cherish that part of your heart that is not getting ripped to shreds – you will need it
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Julie, so heart breaking to read … and I can’t even image how it must be for you.
Yes I wasn’t expecting this on a day I had decided to be more positive – oh well, day by day by day!
Reserving a little bit of the heart – good idea for you. Protect yourself and still not shutting down your emotional self– sounds very wise dear Julie 🙂 xo
One of the things I have found so absolutely gobsmackingly amazing about blogging is the unexpected delight in meeting people like you.
Oh I’m a pain in the ass too Julie… but think we could be good friends no matter… love u!
No way could you ever be a pain in the ass!
😉 well – I’m always pretty sweet -but yeah – I have my moments LOL!! xo
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Sorry dear Julie, in both side it is not easy. But I am afraid of about you dear. My prayers for you. Love, nia
I’m okay.
Yeesh. Didn’t see that coming, either!
Neither did I!
It is going to happen, i think it is called detaching with love and I am happy that the nurse was there to lend support to the both of you.Now I am curious that there is a story related to “Petunia Park”.
That’s not its real name but it is a very old and beautiful mansion up the road that belongs to a relative of Anthony’s. He has always loved the house.
i am so sorry Julie
Me too.
We were glad that my aunt wasn’t able to ring mum as she would be asking all the time when mum would be going to get her…………….I am sorry you have to get those phone calls must make it all the harder for you……..
I rarely get phonecalls so my husband must have asked a nurse to ring me. The distress in his voice was terrible to hear.
It’s wise to keep a special compartment for loved ones who are confused and frightened or upset. The thing is, you constantly deal with him with love, and that’s all you can do sometimes.
Hugs and love to you both… It is not easy…
Horrible – thank you!
Compartmentalising is useful at times, so long as it doesn’t become a habit.
Oh! Good point.
Julie – So wish it was better for you all. Hang on to all the heart that you can…
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