Yesterday’s post about loneliness was, I realise now, not just about me. I had been to a carer support meeting in the morning, then to see Anthony at noon, then to visit some residents at a different nursing home in the afternoon. After I got home in the early evening, I messaged a couple of friends whose loved ones are in care.
In terms of volunteering, it was a great day but I guess I must have absorbed a little too much of other people’s loneliness (in the context of Dementia). The sore throat that I was trying to ignore did a little crescendo thing, reminding me to rest up.
The various talks at the conference gave me some insight into the concepts, and practicalities, of, for instance, empathy. Somebody used the phrase, ’empathy fatigue’ and I thought aha – so that’s why I keep getting sick.
However, when I looked this phrase up, I learned that empathy fatigue happens to people whose empathy resources have dried up due to fatigue. Oh! I guess I got that wrong because my empathy is still on full alert, but my fatigue is extreme.
The responses to my post about loneliness are a reminder to me that I am not alone in my situation. I am so grateful for this support because it helps me to support other people dealing with the grief and loss associated with Dementia.
Unlonely x