Anthony: Didn’t you already write this … twice?
Me: Yeah, I know, but Ming doesn’t want to be part of these conversations, Ants, so that was a bit unwise on my part.
Anthony: Why?
Me: Well, it’s difficult enough recapturing your pre-dementia voice without also trying to invent Ming’s might-be voice when he isn’t the slightest bit interested.
Anthony: That’s my boy.
Me: Exactly. You see what I mean, then. These imagined conversations become really contrived if I include him and he….
Anthony: So, Ming has moved on?
Me: Well, I think you know the answer to that, Ants; Ming moved on a few years ago, before you even went into the nursing home. He did try.
Anthony: Why would you think that I would want my teenage son to hug me when I couldn’t hug him back?
Me: I just wanted you to know how much he loved you, Ants.
Anthony: By forcing him?
Me: Okay, I get it and I’m sorry. I get it now.
Anthony: Jules, there is absolutely nothing to worry about. Ming knows me and I know Ming.
Me: So should I just leave you guys alone? Is that what you mean?
Anthony: Just leave him alone, Jules, and let these conversations be just between you and me. It’s easier that way.
Me: I feel a bit stupid now to have contrived those last two dialogues, with a pretend-Ming. Plus he gets so angry when I try to do that.
Anthony: So why do you do it?
Me: Because I want it all back, Ants! Can’t you understand that? I want the three of us back together ten years ago before you got so bloody sick!
Anthony: Jules?
Me: What now?
Anthony: You can’t have it back – it’s gone. Ming understands this and it’s time you did too.
Me: And now you sound like all of those people I want to smash who say “isn’t it about time you moved on?”
Anthony: But isn’t it?
Me: Sometimes I really HATE you for dying. I absolutely HATE you!
Anthony: I know, but….
Me: Yes, of course you know, don’t you, you smug, supercilious, heavenly bastard – I am so angry I can hardly function, Ants; I want to kill the world.
Anthony: You don’t mean that.
Me: That has been your pat answer for anything remotely dramatic I have ever said. Stop always trying to shut me up!
Anthony: Jules?
Me: Now what?
Anthony: These conversations are coming to an end.
Me: Why? What did I say wrong? I’m so sorry, Ants – I didn’t mean any of it and of course I don’t hate you….
Anthony: Ming has already done it.
Me: Done what? What, Ants?
Anthony: Ended it.
Me: But….