wings and things

Free lunch

on June 5, 2013

Anthony’s Parkinsonism symptoms include difficulty in swallowing but, so far, he is still able to half-manage normal, rather than mushed meals. However, his appetite is diminished and he has a dribbling problem.

Recently I have been going into the nursing lodge in the late mornings so that I can help him with his lunch. The lunch meal is always huge and often a roast, and is delicious. Ants only ever eats half of it, so I secretly gobble the rest with a separate spoon or fork.

– Use my fork, he says.
– I’m not particularly keen on your saliva, I say.
– One more mouthful, he says.
– So you want me to actually feed you?
– Erotic, he says without hesitation, and I crack up laughing.

I wonder what’s on the menu tomorrow.

25 responses to “Free lunch

  1. Anthony is still there–love his response

  2. There is so much humour amongst the pathos.

    In some years’ time, when you have perspective, you should think about turning your posts into a book, telling your whole story.

  3. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography) says:

    I cracked up laughing too.
    Nice to hear Anthony hasn’t lost his sense of humour.

  4. I love your love. And the humor that comes with it.

  5. That last point made me laugh too!

  6. bulldog says:

    I love Anthony’s response… he’s still got it…

  7. Ingrid says:

    Erotic … I like it … nothing wrong with a bit of saliva …

  8. So very touching and loving.

    I agree with Laughing Housewife.

  9. I love his humor! That is so wonderful that the meals are good and hearty. That in and of itself must be a cheerful sight, lovely food for the eyes to see and the nose to smell. I’m glad that you are sharing meals with Anthony, it seems less stressfl than dealing with the taxi service when he comes home.

  10. you seem to have this way of finding how to flow with whatever the changes are. it may take a bit of brainstorming but you get there!

    as always thank you for sharing your story and making me laugh and cry all at the same time.

  11. Terry says:

    Al has trouble eating also. He has his meats ground up but still struggles. He is able to feed himself but spills so much and his appetite has gone down also

  12. tersiaburger says:

    I love your love….One day your love story movie will be shown world wide…. Your posts fill me with joy and sadness, hope and despair. Lots of love dear Julie.

  13. Rhonda says:

    cheeky devil! the twinkle is still there 🙂

  14. FlaHam says:

    Julie, soft smile, it is posts like this I have missed so much the past month. Thank you for bring yourself and Ants back. Ants is a smart man I would have my lovely wife feed me to, and smile with each bite. — Take care, Bill

  15. tglifecoach says:

    It’s good that he hasn’t lost his sense of humor.

  16. janechese says:

    Oh, you two love birds! Sounds like a hot lunch. 😉 and “yes” to a book down the road…

  17. It is terrible when our love ones start to have trouble eating my nan can’t feed herself and can only eat mushed foods now.

  18. TBM says:

    I love his cheekiness.

  19. WordsFallFromMyEyes says:


    He’s lovely :). You are beautiful together.

  20. Judith says:

    Sounds like a win/win for both of you….and a little kinky:)

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