This last week I have had a difficult time coping with Anthony’s dementia-ridden sadness, his lucid memories of/confusion about unpleasant things from the past, his newly-found resistance against nursing staff, his relentless need for me, his unbearable love of our home and his absence from it, and now six days of constipation and associated pain.
His unpleasant memories, and my struggle with forgiveness of those who hurt him (done now, I hope), are nothing compared to the immediacy of his PDD-related physical ailments. Tomorrow, I will ask the nursing lodge staff if I can stay the night. They will say no again, but you never know; it’s the weekend!
Blog break over wkend
jmgoyder 
I need a favour….can you give Ants a hug for me!!
Of course Michelly!
Julie, Enjoy your blog free weekend. But more importantly enjoy every moment you get to spend with Ants, all night, or all day, or both, just enjoy the time. Take care, Bill
Will do, Bill – thx!
Don’t ask the staff, just hide when they close up and sneak out when they’ve settled for the night…
Good thinking!
I’m with bulldog!
What is the worst that can happen?! You have to return him, sheepishly?
Oh dear Julie yes, I agree with dear Rob, don’t ask and hide 🙂 But they should let you. I make my fingers crossed. Have a nice weekend, love, nia
Oh Julie – HUGS. I wish there was something I could say or do to make things even a bit better. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
xo
Diana
That’d be great if they let you stay over from time to time… if it’s a private room why not? Anyway have a great weekend… Diane
Fingers crossed they’ll let you stay the night. Sending good thoughts to you all. xox Paulette
A sleepover! Sounds perfect…and yeah, take the bulldog’s advice. 🙂 break some rules jules! xo
Sneak in!
I can see no reason why you could not spend the night. I could at Al’s place. They are going to use liability and no space as their excuses!
good luck
For constipation issues, believe or not pumpkin puree is a wonderful remedy and you prepare it how you like or if Anthony wouldn’t mind it glycerin suppositories, they work wonders without the long wait. The pumpkin idea, I read and have used it, and the suppositories are a French remedy and again it works. Have fun with your super secret agent sleepover.;)
Hope your weekend turns out better than you could hope for, Julie. It’s been a rough week. Hugs.
It’s a heavy burden to carry. We can only hope that our good wishes can lighten it even if only by a tiny bit.
Sneaking in to stay with your man. I like their suggestions. Have a wonderful weekend with Anthony. 🙂
We’re all waiting to find out if you were able to have that sleep over. Why in heck not!! He’s your man.
How very sad that the home is not open to spouses staying. Seems to me there is something fundamentally wrong with the ethos here. Where I work that attitude is very different.
Is it possible to get to the bottom of why they are saying ‘no’?
Accommodation / fire register / afraid you’ll spot something they do that you won’t approve of? Do they think they are ‘protecting you’ or that may be they perceive that wnating to stay means that you don’t trust them in some way?
I hope you can resolve this.
Oh the poor man. I hate to see any one in pain, let alone a loved one! Take care of yourself this weekend (Well, I hope you did, since I am catching up to you).
What reason can they possibly have for denying you an overnight visit? How sad, Julie. xo
We took turns staying the night with my mom before she moved in with my sister. I’m not sure that it made Mom happier, and it made us exhausted. I love how much you love Anthony, but you have to be nice to yourself too.