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Turkey posing

Me: Bubble, would you mind if I took some close up photos of you?

Bubble: I don’t mind at all as long as it’s just me. I’d rather not pose with the other Bubble if that’s all right.

Me: Just you – maybe some profile shots.

Bubble: I believe this is my best side.

Me: Definitely! 

Bubble: Would you like me to look pensive like this, or defiant?

Me: Show me defiant.

Me: That’s fantastic, Bubble!

Bubble: Thank you. I can do nostalgia too, if you want.

Me: Okay, Bubble, let’s see nostalgia.

Bubble: How’s that?

Me: Absolutely brilliant!

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The heat is on

It has been a cool, sunny day with temperatures in the house at around 22 but, because Husband feels the cold so badly, he is sitting in front of a roaring fire with all the windows closed and a blanket on and I have had to escape before I die of heat exhaustion!

We have had this conundrum for some time. Husband’s Parkinson’s disease makes him more susceptible to temperatures but not always in a way that makes sense to anyone else. I have just put another piece of wood on the fire in a room that has become a sauna and have taken a picture with his permission. He seems to find it amusing that I can’t venture into the room without melting.

I am not amused – ha!

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Fish mornay etc.

We aren’t having the fish mornay until dinner tonight because Husband wanted sardines on toast for lunch. Even though he is not at all religious, he was brought up to always have fish on Good Friday. He is having an afternoon nap now, so here are both recipes (I’ve had a few queries about the mornay):

Sardines on toast

Lightly toast some bread

Mush up a can of sardines or two and mix in some tomato sauce, worcestershire sauce (had to look at the bottle to get the spelling right!), lemon juice, salt and pepper.

Spread the sardine mixture thickly on the toast and bake in a hot oven for 5 minutes.

Fish mornay

Put a generous slab of butter in a saucepan and melt it

Stir in enough flour to make a gluey paste

Gradually add milk (very gradually) whilst stirring vigorously – keep adding milk and stirring until you have white sauce and try not to let it boil up to much

Mush up some cooked fish (we use canned pink salmon with juice in) and add it to the white sauce and stir it in on lower heat

Chuck the mixture into a baking dish and sprinkle with bread crumbs, dobs of butter and grated cheese

Bake in hot oven for 10 minutes

Serve with rice or mashed potatoes, and salad

[Variations can include the addition of asparagus, parsley, spinach etc.]

Okay now to give credit where credit is due, these were Husband’s mother’s recipes and, believe it or not, once upon a time I used to look after her too. It was my first job and she taught me how to cook. At the time, she was 82 and needed a hand because she had recently broken her hip and I had just quit my first attempt at university studies; I was 17, nearly 18. Husband was 41 and for me it was love at first sight so I really tried to get the mornay thing right because I soon discovered this family loved lots of things mornayed!

Husband’s mother was a rather formidably dignified woman who weilded her walking stick like a weapon and my first attempt at fish mornay elicited from her a subtle grimace and a not-so-subtle, “Well, darling, that was diabolical!”

These days, Husband says (about my mornays), “Perfect – just like Mum’s”.

Life is weird….

PS. The sardine recipe won’t work without the worcestershire!

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Good Friday

Tomorrow is the only day of the year that everything is closed for business – all the shops, all the pubs, all the petrol stations – so I guess it is our country’s tiny gesture towards the religious significance of this crucifying day ….

I always save up all my sadnesses for this day because it seems more emotionally economical to do so. After all, I can’t miss my father, who died when I was 19, every day; I can’t miss my misspent youth every day; I can’t miss my inviolable faith every day; I can’t miss Son’s babyhood every day; I can’t miss Husband the way he was, every day.

So tonight, I am doing my sad-missing-stuff thing before Good Friday so that tomorrow I will be able to stretch out both of my arms as far as they will stretch in order to embrace something new, in order to wrap them around what is next, in order to kiss the morning.

Tomorrow, I pick Husband up from the nursing lodge after I leave Son with my mother. I have made fish mornay (Husband’s favourite) for lunch. It will be a good day.

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That strange bird again!

It is a cross between a chook and a white peacock but it also has the glazed, ecstatic eyes of an emu being given cabbage. It is a rooster, a crow, a sparrow, a sitting duck.

What on earth should I do with this bird?

This is Son at his final-year-of-school dinner. I’m not quite sure how or why he received the Headmaster’s award.

The only reason I like this horrible photo of Son is because it was before surgery when he was more flexible. Unfortunately he is still able to do that spooky thing with his eyes!

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Rain!

Finally, in our second month of Autumn, it is raining properly. Yeeha – the paddocks are green, we don’t have to water the potplants, the birds are in heaven and we might be able to light our incinerators!

This morning, the rooftop was alive with scrambling peafowl for a better view of the clouds. Eventually they flew onto the washhouse roof. It’s the females who are the best weather forecasters….

Young peahen: Do you think rain is coming, Mummy? 

Queenie: It certainly is, darling, and we will have to be very quick to get the first worms before those dreadful geese do. 

Well, it’s pouring down with rain now so I hope they are all happy – me, I have to wade through puddles to put the gang away and feed the Emerys their evening cabbage.

I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with the rain.

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Even more determination

Husband is coming home for Easter and I am determined to make this work which could be a bit of a challenge. You see it isn’t only the dogs and birds who are presenting me with a compatibility problem, it’s also the fact that Son’s relationship with Husband is fraught with tension. With both of my ‘boys’ incapacitated, Husband permanently with Parkinson’s, and Son temporarily with the post-surgical back brace, my attention is divided and the 3-way dynamics sometimes resemble a comic strip with me as the punchline.

Yes, indeed, sometimes three is literally a crowd, so, even though he doesn’t know this yet, Son is going to Grandma’s for a couple of days so that I can give Husband my undivided attention. Well, not quite as I am not really into doing the doting wife thing so Husband would find that a bit alarming, but I will try!

I’ve been training the guinnea fowl into a welcoming party and they are doing very well.

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Determination

When I let the geese and ducks out in the morning, they now head, vociferously, straight to the dogyard. They seem to have it in for the dogs after our so-called harmony day the other day (end results of this are another story).

Look how determined they are on their way to tell the dogs who is boss around here. Godfrey’s head is missing from the photo – sorry about that – hehe! Well he bit my hand tonight and drew blood (another another story!)

Of course the situation is reversed in the evening but I have to say that the dogs aren’t quite as loud.

It looks like they are never going to be compatible and I was silly to try. Oh well – live and learn!

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Too much information

A couple of people were curious about the pigmentation I mentioned in yesterday’s post (pre-surgery, we were told that Son had a couple of tell-tale ‘spots’ that were warning signs of scoliosis). Anyway, he allowed me to take a photo of the biggest of these which is on the inside of one of his elbows. He has a couple more of these elsewhere.

I remember now that they told us these were ‘cafe au lait’ spots. Okay so I looked it all up and found this site which I wish I hadn’t because, if the information is correct, it means that Son has this neuro-whatever condition which may have come from me. After all I’m the one with the freckles!

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/819447

Argh!

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Before and after

I suddenly realized that I have some useful, newfound knowledge to impart and that it may be helpful, so here it is.

At our first visit to the surgeon who performed Son’s scoliosis surgery, several student doctors were invited into the room to have a look at him because he was a bit of an unusual ‘case’. This was two years ago when Son was 16 and the reason he seemed unusual was that, with his shirt on, it wasn’t at all obvious that anything was wrong with his back. So, when he took his shirt off, the student doctors were taken aback to see such a pronounced curve. They circled him as he stood like a side-show exhibit, then someone drew attention to the inside of his elbow where there is a rather large brown patch of pigmentation, like a small birthmark or a big freckle. He was then ‘searched’ for more of these (if they’d asked me, I could have told them he had another one above his hip). We were then told that this is a warning sign for scoliosis.

Now who would ever know that? That’s why I’m posting this – in case you have children or teenagers with this kind of pigmentation. I’m sorry I haven’t presented research links here, but it’s easy enough to find on the internet.

My other bit of useful information is this: the longterm after-effects of general anaesthesia, and pain medication, can play havoc with the brain, especially after major surgery. Son was under anaesthetic for several hours and then on morphine-based painkillers for several weeks. It is now six weeks since his surgery and two weeks since he took his last painkiller. He is 90% his usual, adorable self, 5% his usual unadorable self and 5% a hound from hell who I’ve never met before. In fact, even Son admits to never having met this 5% of himself.

So, the other day, when we met with the surgeon for our first post-op. appointment, one of our many questions was to do with whether Son’s hound-from-hellish moods were attributable to the anaesthetic and subsequent drugs and the answer was yes, and that it might take several more weeks for his brain to recover from the onslaught.

Now who would ever know that either? The miraculous surgery and Son’s incredibly fast recovery – all so wonderful – has been somewhat tainted by that hound from hell but at least we now know that this hound will soon go away and that is an enormous relief!

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