Yesterday, Son and I broke the news to Husband that his two weeks in the nursing home lodge might need to be extended, might even be indefinite and that this has been recommended by three of his doctors. Son reinforced this by starting a verbal sparring match:
Son: We can’t look after you anymore, Dad!
Husband: Well, you’re not much of a son, are you!
Me: C’mon, guys, give it a rest.
Son: Dad, can’t you see you need nursing care?
Husband: I’ll get better – wait and see. Don’t give up on me. Where’s my wife?
Son: Her name is Julie, Dad, and she’s crying in the bathroom as usual.
Husband: What the hell is she doing that for?
Me: Sorry, just had to go to the loo.
Husband: Are you okay? You look terrible. You really need a haircut.
Me: I know.
Son: Argh – I’ll meet you out in the car, Mum. Bye, Dad.
Husband: Wait – give me a hug.
Me: He’s okay; he’s a teenager.
Husband: Why is he so ….?
Me: He’s angry.
Husband: I love you two more than life.
Me: Us too.
Husband: You better go.
Me: Yeah, the brat’s waiting – give me a hug.
Husband: See you tomorrow?
Me: See you tomorrow.
Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking…. br
jmgoyder 
My heart breaks for you Julie. I wish you and your family weren’t going through this.
It is hard to believe now, but those jagged pieces scattered around you, will come together again eventually in a new way that will make you all stronger.
Reinvigorated – thanks Linda.
So very sad….
I’ve decided today’s visit will not be sad. I need to think of a few funny stories or something!
Try not to break Julie. Thats easy for me to say, I know, sorry.
Your are a beautiful family. Cry to us, your cyber friends, throw bricks and tantrums at us, we don’t mind.
I must pull my socks up!
It must be incredibly heart-wrenching going through this period in your lives. I feel immensely sad for you, but I’m sure your Husband will get used to the routine of a new home & your regular visits.
It takes time to get used to a new routine.
One day you’ll wake up and find that Life just Is (as it is).
I like the pragmatism of your words and you are right.
Thinking of you so so much babycheeks. Love you all.
So how’s it going over there, adventurer? I will email or text you schnookums!
get my number from Brin. coz I think the mobile I have for you is an old one. Miss you sissy-in-law.
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I’m so sad for you all, Julie.
It’s a one day by one day thing – there are much worse situations than ours – wanna get laughing back, like you!
At times it’s hell on earth, Julie, and we owe it to ourselves to just be miserable and fling it out there for a while, otherwise we do break trying to be happy and cheerful all the time.
Thanks for that wisdom.
It is sad for all of you and you will of course pass through this and find your way to a better place. Reading how you are feeling keeps me mindful of how difficult this must be for my husband. I never want him to hide in the bathroom crying. Keep writing, not for others but for you.
Thanks so much – I feel for you and your husband.