Yesterday, a friend said we had made a good decision in ensuring Husband’s permanency in the nursing lodge.
Yesterday, a friend said we had made a terrible mistake ‘putting’ Husband into a ‘nursing home’.
Yesterday, a friend said Son’s spinal operation was the best thing we could possibly do, and our only option.
Yesterday, a friend said spinal surgery was a bad idea, that Son might become paralysed and that, at the very least, he would lose flexibility.
Yesterday, a friend said that everything would be all right.
Yesterday, a friend said that things would be very difficult.
Yesterday, I wanted it to be Today.
So I went outside to see Pearl … because she doesn’t say anything.
jmgoyder 
Everyone needs a Pearl in their life… 🙂
Yes!
stated so lovely…. thanks goodness for critter friends!
They are the best – ha!
Hi,
A very wise decision I would say. 😀
Yes – hehe!
I say ‘there is a time in our lives for everything”.
Now is the time in Son’s life for back surgery, (as long as he has realistic expectations of the outcome and understands that it is not going to be an easy time).
Thanks so much, Vicki!
“I have often regretted my speech, but never my silence.” Publius 100 B.C.
M.L.
Wise!!!
it is often better to just listen and not offer platitudes. the birds are an obvious choice for when any of us are in need of companionship without the chatter. for me it is cats, they offer no advice and really aren’t even that interested in what is going on with me. as for your son after many years of working with teens in therapy and again in a classroom it came to me. they are two year olds in these big bodies. they want their freedom but equally desire the comfort of knowing you are there if needed. when his brain catches up (at the age of 20-25) he may do as my son did, one day out of the blue he called and said simply “I am sorry mom” when asked what for he laughed and said all of it. he now has children of his own and that is the real joke:) I am having the last laugh! praying and sending all positive thoughts your way during this new adventure. keep enjoying the counsel of your birds they are smarter than all of us.
What a beautiful comment – thank you and I like how you call this a new adventure – great way of putting it!
Your last line is powerful. There is an important message here. Sometimes what we need is for someone to just listen…genuinely listen…and be there with us.
Yes, people are often too quick to speak, myself included. The birds are wise!
In the end, we have to work it through for ourselves – I am finding that now with this issue with my feet – everyone’s comments scare me, regardless, because ultimately none of us know for sure what the outcome will be. It’s the dealing with the uncertainty of it all and nothing anyone says can truly put our minds to rest. We all mean well but it can never have the desired effect of creating certainty – we just have to be brave and work through it for ourselves
So true and wise!
Everyone who comments is coming from their own experience which could have been along time ago and really technology has advanced so much, just in the last twenty years. Remember spinal fusions used to be such a scary thought, but now the results are amazing. I nearly fell over in shock the other day when one of my neighbours told me he had a spinal fusion about five years ago. i had no idea and I was so surprised because now he can lift anything, regularly drives long distances in his work huge trucks and is really flexible. I never would have believed that possible … so tere you go … that’s my two bobs worth!
That is extremely encouraging – thanks Ingrid!