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wings and things

It is hard to find the right words to say how much I admire Robyn’s resilence and determination and generosity when she is facing such pain.

THROUGH THE HEALING LENS

~~

 Uplift me
Today

 Beside you
I’ll stay

~~

Loving strength
You extend

Broken pieces
We’ll mend

~~

Despite dares
That we face

Conjoined faith
We embrace

~~

Roots of passion
Persist

Amongst perilous
Twists;

~~

So

Together
We
Soar

~~

Bound as
One

Evermore.
~

©Robyn Lee

To all of my wonderful blog friends,

I dedicate this post to all of you who have been my ‘uplifters’ over these past several months. I have been deeply moved by  your collective love and support with regard to both, my ongoing medical challenges, and my creative journey through blogging. The friends I’ve made here are some of the kindest and most generous and genuine people I’ve known. You have all  touched my soul, and taught me so much. 

Currently, I am facing more difficult times physically, and will need to reduce my blogging schedule temporarily. I want to let everyone…

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Rabbits rabbits rabbits!

As mentioned before, we have a bit of a rabbit plague. In rural areas like ours, rabbits are regarded as a pest because they destroy crops. So far, our zillion seem to be content to co-habit with the birds, dig little holes everywhere and look cute. They are also quite good lawnmowers, so I have decided on a truce; after all we have a bit in common.

Rabbits are not natural to Australia, but neither are white people.

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Blanxiety

Every now and then I blog about blogging. I do this when I am blanxious – that’s a word that means ‘anxious about blogging’.

I know for sure that I am not the only blanxious person in the world and that, if I were, I would contact the Guiness Book of Records and make a lot of money.

Instead, I have decided to contact the English Dictionary people to tell them I have invented a new word to describe blog-blipping bona fides (‘bona fide’ comes from the Latin and, roughly translated, means ‘in good faith’.)

Blanxiety is a condition that may (or may not) include the following symptoms:

  • inability to keep up with reading all of the blogs you subscribe to, then unsubscribe to, then resubscribe to;
  • inability to respond to all of the comments even though you are usually very polite;
  • inability to figure out a lot of blogging widgetty stuff you should have figured out when you first started your blog;
  • inability to overcome the guilt of deleting, ignoring, saving, forgetting the words of blog friends who you care about; and
  • inability to eat breakfast before you check your blogdom.

This blanxiety condition has several more symptoms but it is beyond the scope of this post to outline all of them so ….

I guess this is my way of apologizing for … I’m not sure what!

Note to non-bloggers: keep your innocence!

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Just a moment

We had an appointment today in Perth (two hours north of here) for Ming to see the surgeon who operated on his scoliosis in February. After the usual X-rays and waiting room waiting, the surgeon said Ming’s spinal curve (Cobb’s angle – see below) had further reduced from 35% to 22%. Now I don’t understand the maths of this because I am not mathematically inclined, however, considering Ming’s curve was 75%/80% before surgery (depending on which radiologist was interpreting the X-ray) then I think 22% is beyond fantastic! I didn’t realize that his spine might straighten even more post-surgery.

http://www.e-radiography.net/radpath/c/cobbs-angle.htm

As we were leaving, I noticed a teenage girl who had tears in her eyes as she left the building with her parents so I told Ming to go and say something comforting to her while I went to the loo. When I came outside I found Ming talking in his loud, open, gesticulating way to the little family, and the girl’s eyes were no longer teary – they were shining. I said I was his mum and that we’d been a bit worried that she was upset. Then we all exchanged handshakes and wished each other well, all of us smiling.

We didn’t exchange names or contact details because it was all a bit ‘in the moment’ but that’s probably okay.

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Bulldog

One of my blog friends has the interesting nickname of ‘bulldog’. You can find his blog here:

http://visitstothepark.wordpress.com/

Recently, he sent me a special photograph and I am now sharing it here because it reminds me of how an argument can clear the air.

Thanks bulldog!

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The argument

Tonight the argument escalated to a point where we are both terribly shaken at how ferocious we can be towards each other.

The Aga was off because we ran out of kerosene a few days ago so, instead, we filled the kitchen with the heat of our fury until words whimpered away, and our tears tore our anger into small shivers of hot shock.

My son and I looked at each other with black eyes, unblinking and hateful but then one of us blinked and we found comfort in the Chinese food I’d brought home.

I have just tucked him in – this Anthony clone, Ming – and he admitted that he is terrified of losing me in the same way he has lost Anthony, his father, to illness. My sprained ankle terrified and engraged him.

His rage was thunderous and his beautiful face was contorted into a thousand lines of teenage fear. “I can’t lose you too, Mum,” he said, shivering into the blankets I piled ontop of him.

He always starts ‘the argument’ but I don’t blame him at all for this – my fantastic son, Ming.

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Duck dynamics 2

Zaruma: Julie, I spoke to Tapper and she was quite defensive and just said she felt so sorry for Daffy after he lost Dotty. Apparently, Daffy thought Dotty was just laying eggs somewhere but it’s been too long now, so he has accepted that the fox got her, but he is grief-stricken.

Me: I know, Zaruma, and it is great to see that you’ve developed a bit of empathy.

Zaruma: I just miss those frolicking, rollicking days before Tapper changed. I concede that I feel sorry for Daffy – yes – but I do have a solution if you are willing to listen, Julie.

Me: Okay, I’m listening.

Zaruma: Just cook Daffy for dinner.

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Duck dynamics 1

Me: What’s wrong, Zaruma? Why are you hiding?

Zaruma: I’m not hiding, Julie, I just need to be alone for awhile to think things through.

Me: Well come out and socialize soon please. I don’t like to see you like this.

Zaruma: I’m a bit sad – very sad actually – about Tapper. I thought she was my girlfriend but now she seems to like Daffy. I didn’t know she was a fence-sitter when we first met.

Me: I didn’t either, Zaruma, but according to my research, monogamy is not a requirement in duckdom.

Zaruma: But how can she compare my handsomeness to that daffy Daffy’s? I would really appreciate your honest opinion here, Julie.

Me: Okay, Zaruma, it’s quite possibly due to your lack of hygiene. Clean yourself up and go and have a talk to Tapper, then come back and we’ll discuss it further, okay?

Zaruma: Thanks, Julie. I’ll meet you at the back veranda door at 5pm. I am just warning you that I might have to bite Daffy in the meantime.

Me: You do what you have to do, Zaruma – you were my first duck, so I fully support whatever you think is best.

Zaruma: I’m a drake, Julie, not a duck.

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Spring’s onslaught

It is now the fourth day of Spring here and it hasn’t stopped storming – ferocious rain, wind, and a very frightened sun that tries to peek out of the black sky and then withdraws again. The whole house is rattling with this extraordinary weather and I don’t dare venture out even though it is already after 2pm. I await a lull so that I can go out and tend to the birds.

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Love story 93 – Anthony’s 75th birthday party

Last year, before Anthony turned 75, I decided to throw him a huge party and invite every single one of his friends and relatives. I knew at the time that it would be our last opportunity to do this because of how rapidly Anthony’s health was deteriorating. The party was a resounding success with everyone here at the farm – over 100 people! One of the highlights was this poem, written by his friend, Eden, and read out by his nephew, Andrew. Eden had handwritten it and I now have it framed and on the wall in Anthony’s room at the nursing lodge. Every time I read it, it makes me laugh and cry and laugh again.

Goyder’s  Show

So long ago by just a chance

to town he came for drink and dance.

That’s how we met so long ago, and

set the future’s wonderful show.

From Balingup hills to Dardanup flats,

drinking, hard working and fast cars to bat.

Like the “G.T.” roaring from “Bythorne’s” gate,

only shortly after to meet its fate.

The “A9X” would do no such thing,

It was far too precious with all its bling.

The shake of his hand is a law to abide,

welcoming many to “come inside.”

The kitchen table like a rock to the land,

a tea or a beer always at hand.

The AGA sits with pride of place,

the warmth of its glow etched in his face.

Cows in the shed, calves on the chain,

Shorts, teeshirt ’n boots he’d tend to them for gain.

The hours long and days of repeat,

milk quota cheques made it ever so sweet.

The “Inkys and Docs” were to provide for a stash,

when times were hard and the beef market crash.

That’s breeding the dachshunds should you not know,

just another chapter in this wonderful show.

Loyal to his siblings, workers and friends,

Arthur and Ken, the incredible men.

Side by side, intuitively so, Anthony Goyder

would give them a go.

So many shared his trust and kind ways,

so many fortunate come what may.

Somewhere in the midst came a wife and a son,

a job in the waiting, which had to be done.

They’re the pride of his fleet and ultimate test

To his boyness manner and youthful zest.

A husband sincere and ‘King of the Dads’

Menzies his son, such a fortunate lad.

‘His Royal Highness’ of Paradise Road,

is always there to share the load

of a mind stressed or persons ill,

he’s always kind and full of will.

Not father, brother or simply friend

but something of each his curious blend.

This man would show the way of right

and steady the wrong of which I might.

These qualities not destined at birth,

but earnestly found as he treads the earth.

This bloke of endless humour and wit

has a soulful nature blended from grit.

Should a scrap of fight I had to go

I’d have Goyder on side and not as foe.

The hard hits he’d take for all his mob,

then wryly smile and say good job.

His humour and wit come to the fore

exclaiming “they missed the Goyder once more!”

A yell to his mates would be “grab us a beer,

let’s get out now with something to cheer!”

In 25 years it’s cheers we will,

the time going by like the ring of a till.

With Queen’s telegram he’ll calling us back,

for a drink and a yarn at the “Bythorne Shack.”

“A Queen’s telegram! I’m one hundred you know.”

I can’t wait for that in his wonderful show ….

Me on the left and Ants on the right as the poem was being read out.

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