In the morning, Ming and I are going into town to an appointment with someone who will help us to cope with each other, the farm and Anthony’s deterioration.
I told Ants about this appointment when I saw him this afternoon with my red wine and he wanted to come along too but I said I couldn’t take him as it was too early in the morning etc. etc. and then I finally admitted to him that Ming’s anger would only be exacerbated if Ants were present.
“So he hates me then,” Anthony said, spilling his wine.
“No, Ants, he hates both of us at the moment,” I said.
“But why?”
“Because you are so sick and I am so sad.”
“Okay – just come here afterwards.”
And we will.
jmgoyder 
Oh, so sad…you all will be in my thoughts.
Yes, Ming’s anger is the problem at the moment but he will be okay.
Do hope the meeting goes well 😉
Me too!
Good luck — this has to be a good thing — I know it will be!! xxoo
Hoping for the brat now!
This is going to be good. ~Lynda
It was brilliant!
Shine on! 😀
I hope and wish the meeting goes well dear Julie, love, nia
It was great Nia – thank you!
I hope that the meeting brings peace into you and your family’s home and heart.
It was very interesting and worked out well – do you ever get this kind of help?
I love how honest and practical both you and Anthony are. It’s pretty normal for Ming to be angry now, and you accept that.
The counsellor said that too – she was so wonderful in saying to Ming that his anger was perfectly normal.
I commented, and it disappeared. Hope I’m not duplicating this, but I love how honest and practical you and Anthony are. It’s pretty normal for Ming to feel angry now, and you accept that.
Your other comment came up as anonymous – not sure why.
Hope it went well.
That is very kind of you – thanks!
Hope is believing it will get better and when you know it is not going to really get better, it is saying “yes!” to life.Glad that you are embarking on this journey of hope. Jane
It was a wonderful session!
Gosh I hope it all goes well for you both… you need to be supporting each other not being angry about something over which you have no control…
We were reassured – it was a wonderful experience to get some feedback on what is wrong even though we already knew what was wrong – if you know what i mean!
good luck — (hugs)
xxxx
if any two people can benefit from therapy it is you and ming. can’t wait to hear how it goes!
Fantastic!
I am eager to read how this turns out!
I am so relieved we did this!
A very wise move.
Negative emotions, while understandable at this time, do not bode well for healthy relationships.
When they happen, they need to be channelled into a positive and healing direction, not have a destructive one.
Good luck – hope the end result is healthful .
V
xox
I am so glad we did this – it was great!
Hope it all goes well!
All good!
Aww Parkinsons really is a horrible disease! (hugs)
Totally sucks!
Love that Ants wanted to go along as well. Hope you get the help only a middle-man/person can sometimes bring out!
You are right about the middleman thing – it worked!
So glad to hear it. The healing can start then!
Yes and thank you so much – it has been a horrible few weeks of conflict!
Sounds like a good thing to do. Hoping it will go well…!
Definitely one of my wisest decisions – ha!
Great!
Happy to hear it went so well Jules. Is this going to be a regular thing? For a while?
Definitely!
Yeeha!
There is no need to plagiarize me – hahahahaha!
You NUT!
You PUMPKIN!
See telling Anthony the truth worked he dealt with not going too, if only it worked all the time…….
If only….
Jmgoyder, My heart goes out to you, yet at the same time I see your strenght in each post. You hang in there, and be safe. — Take care, Bill
Vic’s youngest son, Jon-Danie,l is so angry with her for dying. It is hard for the children.