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This odd little family

on October 12, 2012

I love this odd  little family of mine – the three of us – Anthony, Ming and me.

Ants is 76 and in a nursing lodge due to advanced Parkinson’s and cancer, and Ming is 18 and suffering a disease called adolescence.

I’m kind of in the middle at 50ish.  I love them both equally but sometimes it’s almost as if I have to make a choice about who needs to be prioritized. Do I privilege my husband or my son?

That is a very good question.


43 responses to “This odd little family

  1. shoreacres says:

    What about yourself?

  2. susielindau says:

    You just do your best and that is enough! 🙂

  3. jmgoyder says:

    Okay – I think you are probably right Susie!

  4. magzmama says:

    We love you all too.

  5. Louise G. says:

    I agree with Susie — My best is good enough.

  6. terry1954 says:

    I agree, you have to come first, always, and look who is speaking here, lol
    but anyways, i guess it comes to who just trying to be there for whom ever is in need, but you first

  7. bulldogsturf says:

    I’d go with yourself first and then it’s up to you and the circumstances… the motherhood and wife balancing act…. boy am I glad I’m a man…

  8. Robyn Lee says:

    you first!! then they get rewarded with the very best of you !! xxo

  9. That’s a tough one. I say privilege yourself. If you don’t take care of you, who will take care of them? Sending positive energy your way, always in my thoughts.

  10. I think you are a great wife and a great mother and that both know how much you love them. xo

  11. victoriaaphotography says:

    I think it’s all about pacing and knowing what to do & not do (at the right time it’s needed).

    All 3 of you deserve quality time, but you must give time to yourself most of all. If you’re not rested, uplifted and inspired, how can you expect your Mind & Body to be there for others.

    Don’t forget to nourish your body in the right ways too. I say eat properly 6 days a week and on the 7th eat whatever you like (rubbish or junk food if that’s your desire).

    Life is all about Balance. Find the Right Balance for You (& the other aspects of your life will just naturally fall into place).

  12. jmgoyder says:

    Okay, Auntie Victoria – hehehe!
    You are a star – Juliexx

  13. dcwisdom says:

    All good advice here. I have nothing to add. The trial is tough, but you will come out on the other side – and I say intact and healthy with all our love, prayers, and support. If our bodies can’t be there, our hearts are!

  14. Fergiemoto says:

    Our health has to be the first priority. Otherwise, how can we help others.

  15. I think you have to answer that every day – whose needs are most important in that moment? Sometimes it will be one, sometimes the other.

  16. FlaHam says:

    My dear you need to address your needs 1st, that allows you to meet their needs better. — Bill

  17. mrs fringe says:

    A tricky balancing act. I weigh out who has the greater need at the moment. It isn’t perfect, but it works. It took a long time for me to remember I should factor into this equation, too.

  18. At least there is a cure for Ming’s diesease “adolescence” even if it feels like it will never end

  19. eof737 says:

    You are doing the best you can.. no need to choose either or… Just my two cents. 😉

  20. Judith Post says:

    I take turns. I’ve always told Nate that I’m crazy about him on Thursday. On Friday, he’s at the bottom of my list and has to work hard to get even a hug. My husband, John, gets the weekends, Holly gets Mondays because she hates them and needs a boost, and Ty gets Tuesday–alliteration. I don’t care about any of them on Wednesdays. That’s my “me” day.

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