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The best gift

on January 1, 2013

Just before Christmas, Ming had an idea for my presents and we went to a bookstore where he asked me to pick out a bunch of books I wanted and then he would pick three while I went outside the shop. He explained that this would mean I would still get a surprise. So I gleefully picked out six books and left the shop.

So on Christmas morning, I opened the first of my three presents, knowing that it would be a book. But it was two books! And each of the presents contained two books, so Ming had bought me all six and that was the surprise. My delight was contagious and he laughed, saying that he’d been worried that I would choose more and he would have to buy all of them when he didn’t have that much money. He wrote a message in each of the books and some of these were funny, some loving, all illegibly beautiful!

Then he said he had another present and told me that he wanted to spend his remaining savings on a holiday for me at a resort north of here – a whole week! I said no way but I would take 3 nights and he made me shake hands. “You can be all by yourself, Mum, without me and Dad and everything, and you can write and chill out. I’ll look after the birds and dogs and you can just relax.”

Tonight – on this first evening of the new year – he turned his consul off and asked me to come into the living room for a talk. I joined him and we had a long, philosophical discussion in which he said, “I just want us to talk to each other more, Mum, get reconnected, so we both don’t get all sad again.” At that moment, I looked out the front window to see the redgum that Ming bought me three years ago flowering for the first time ever. He noticed it too and we exchanged a smile. “Happy New Year, kid,” I said.

The best gift: Ming.

Thank you, Anthony.


100 responses to “The best gift

  1. oldsunbird says:

    On, Julie, this one made me cry. I can hardly see to type for the tears. This is a beautiful story about you and your amazing son, Ming. I hope you DO take that vacation. You need it and you certainly deserve it. Have a fabulous time! And pamper, pamper, PAMPER yourself!
    Hugs

  2. dodsy says:

    Makes your heart swell when the connection is just so, happy new years Julie Ming and Anthony 🙂 Enjoy your little break, (send Ming for a massage, coz u won’t have one!! ) 🙂 I have Jimmy home too atm so feel free to visit ❤ Love and hugs xx Great gifts Ming !

  3. oh what a wonderful boy 🙂

  4. He seems very mature and caring. Great gifts!

  5. Heartwarming story Julie.

  6. cecilia says:

    That Boy is a Man.. bless him and bless you too and you had better take your three days somewhere nice or i will come over and drop you there myself! c

  7. Gardengirl says:

    Ditto to Onthehomefrontandbeyond! I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award because your blog has inspired me. Thank you! 🙂 Check back at my blog for a badge if you would like to accept. If not, I completely understand that some people have already gotten this and some are just too busy. Thank you for inspiring me anyway!

  8. mrs fringe says:

    Just doesn’t get any more beautiful. Ming is your gift, though he made me cry 😀
    Happy New Year, Julie, Ming, and Anthony. ❤

  9. tootlepedal says:

    You have all my thoughts with you and the harpist for for 2013

  10. elizabeth says:

    Julie, this post brought tears to my eyes. What a precious, thoughtful, beautiful young man your son is. You are blessed beyond measure for sure.

    Happy new year to you and Ming and Anthony and all your lovely feathered friends. 🙂

  11. Colline says:

    You have a very loving son – a beautiful gift that no amount of money can buy. Enjoy the time out that he has given you.

  12. FlaHam says:

    Julie, the exchanges between you and Ming warm my heart. It is so cool that you both work at keeping your relationship sane. — Take care, Bill

  13. lucewriter says:

    Julie, I am nominating you for 3 blog awards: Very Inspring, Blog of the Year, and Super Sweet. If you wish to claim them, I am combining “rules” ;). Post the badge, link back to blog which nominated you, state 7 things about you, and list 10-13 other blogs you enjoy reading. http://writersite.org/2013/01/01/beginning-the-year-with-abundance-gratitude/
    Luanne

  14. Feel quite tearful now. What an amazing child. You should be very proud. Someone with a sense of themselves, at that age – that’s rare. Hugs to you both.

  15. What special gifts he gave you….books which you love, a get-a-way to read and enjoy and unwind, and wisdom to know that you both needed to begin to heal by communicating more with each other….and of course….his love ….Diane

  16. Ms. Boice says:

    love, Love, LOVE this! Ming is a wonderful gift.

  17. I had tears in my eyes, that was so beautiful. I can only imagine how your heart must have swelled with joy and love. It is an amazing gift for a parent when your child sees beyond themselves and reaches out to you to make your life better. That’s when you know that everything has been worth it, you did a few things right and your baby boy is going to be fine in the world. Happy New Year to you Jules and to Anthony and Ming!!

  18. Ming is such a sweet young man and seems to have wisdom beyond his years. Through your posts I see the best of Ants and you in this son of yours. Give that kid a hug for me would ya?
    xo
    Diana

  19. Northern Narratives says:

    What a bright start to the new year. I do hope you go to the resort and leave your computer at home 🙂

  20. viveka says:

    Julie, …. now I’m going to say … what did I say. Wonderful and just the thought that want to send you away to spend time as you please, what a wonderful thought. Julie, Ming are so proud of you too … there is lot of love in your life, Julie!

  21. Lovely. Happy New Year!

  22. kdkh says:

    I’m glad you’re reconnecting in a mature way!

  23. Perfect! But I think you should take the whole week Julie. You guys can Skype maybe that can help make you feel better and still keep you on holiday. Awesome kid you got!

  24. Julie, I love this. I am so glad you have each other.

  25. Ming is splendid, but you know that!

  26. SnapInTime says:

    This was truly beautiful. ❤ What a blessing your son is! Wishing all the best to the three of you.

  27. Robyn Lee says:

    Oh Julie ~ this just made me cry happy happy tears ~ You take him up on that offer – and give him a huge kiss for me!! This was a huge uplifter for me today ~ so happy you shared !!! xxooo Robyn

  28. Judith says:

    He is SUCH a neat kid! Thanks for sharing.

  29. terry1954 says:

    what a beautiful story Julie. you and your son love each other so much. It is so evident that Ming wants things back to normal. Although life will never be as it was, it can still be strong and solid for the two of you as you walk your paths through 2013

  30. What a beautiful Christmas story! May your new year be blessed.

  31. rumpydog says:

    Happy New Year my friend!

  32. You have raised a great son. I hope you tell him every day. 🙂
    And yes, you should have accepted a vacation for a whole week. You need it!

  33. Oh what wonderful presents from you best gift Ming…………..our children sometimes suprise us not always with gifts but with how loving and caring they can be at times………..

  34. What a lovely, thoughtful son you have.

  35. It is not in a teenagers nature, usually, to want to be so talkative. He is really one of a kind. Magic is in the air!

  36. aFrankAngle says:

    Fabulous and a powerful post to start 2013 … and Happy New Year!

  37. Julie Lane says:

    how lucky we are to know and love him xxxx and so like his father

  38. bulldogsturf says:

    What a way to kick off 2013… Ming is a blessing in your house.. yes,.. even when things aren’t looking so good… he is still a blessing to keep you balanced… I love this post… the love of a Son for his Mother…

  39. sbcallahan says:

    made me smile and so happy for you! yes he is a special young man and he had the good fortune to be born to a mom and dad who understand how special he is and encourage him. you are a great human being and i am sending you wishes for a better 2013!

  40. TBM says:

    Oh how wonderful. Happy New Year!

  41. tersiaburger says:

    What an amazing young man you raised! Happy New Year!

  42. yellowlancer says:

    Ming is amazing and wonderful…and perhaps his two amazing and wonderful parents had a little influence in that 🙂

  43. What a beautiful boy he is. I’m all choked up.

  44. I like the way Ming thinks.

  45. eof737 says:

    You have the best son too… What a great blessing…
    Glad to reconnect with you this year and many thanks for the blog love
    •.★♥★Happy New Year to You & Yours!★♥★.•
    Eliz

  46. Judith Post says:

    Hooray!! Does your computer work again? I missed you.

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