I’ve been trying to find a word that means the same thing as ‘stating the obvious’ but, apart from ‘duh’, there doesn’t seem to be one in the English language. ‘Redundant’ doesn’t quite cut it, ínanity’ only just comes close, so ‘duh’ it is.
A close relative of Anthony’s, who only visits him sporadically, and has baulked at my suggestion of getting him wheel-chair taxied to their place, sent me an email the other day. In the email it was stated that they had visited Anthony but didn’t have time at the moment to arrange for a taxi visit. The irony and inanity of the email’s concluding sentence astounded me:
We notice that he is very lonely.
Duh!
jmgoyder 
then go visit him silly goose since you noticed he is lonely!!!!!! Whatever!!!! is that person’s problem???
Geese aren’t silly – haha!
I completely agree. No point stating the obvious – do something about it!
Mmm.
Yeah “duh” says it all………………some people really could do with a “Gibbs” slap to the back of their head……..if you don’t know who Gibbs is sorry watch NCIS…………lol
I will have to google Gibbs!
Duh, works perfectly. Hang in there!
BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!
Yes, duh is just right – hehe!
I guess that I agree with your other commenters…’Duh’ fits perfectly…no more explanation needed….Diane
I was flabbergasted.
Ugh. I agree with your title!!!!!
And I agree with your ugh!
😉 I could so go on and on about folks like this…but I won’t.
When I state the obvious my friend Helga always says, “Thanks Tips.”
Well as far as I’m concerned, you never state the obvious. You always say something new.
you are too kind!
“Duh” says it all. (this is a word which I hadn’t really heard before I got a computer). It’s very expressive.
The relative’s comment leads me to think they are a #$@!& idiot. (sorry, but I have little time for people who come out with ridiculous statements like that). I’d be giving a ‘Gibbs slap to the head’ too.
Ah now I know what Gibbs slap means – hilarious!
I guess there comes a time in your life where you have to allow people to be ignorant and without compassion, and just move on with grace. You’ve already got so much to deal with and letting it get to you won’t help.
Our modern society seems so good at emails, texts and facebook, and so poor at face-to-face, real friendship, support and solidarity. Illness, being elderly or with young children – all of these people and their carers/families – so many that could use a visit or a chat and a cuppa. Keep blogging about it, like I do. Maybe we’ll end up connecting others back into family and community again. We can only hope…
Much, much love to you xoxo
Thanks, Nicole – I have a dreadful intolerance when it comes to ignorance and its offshoots. To move on with grace -yes! Jx
always wonder how to spell that word with meaning… duh .. I’ve always loved the saying .. “No shit, Sherlock??????”…
LOLOLOL!
Arghhhh! The arrogance of the “well-meaning, caring” family….I agree “No shit Sherlock!”
I was gobsmacked.
I would suggest a shake of the head accompanied by the words “What an idiot”. That should do it!
Ha – brilliant!
anyone who has ever been a caregiver has had to put up with ignorance and stupidity–I have been through it several times and it is just people trying to shift the responsibility away from themselves and back onto you tenfold when you are already out of your mind busy trying to take care of that person
Yes, yes and YES!
The amount of insensitivity that people are capable of continues to amaze me. But you were robbed of an opportunity for a comeback because it was done by email, which sucks.
I have to admit fault here as I emailed the taxi suggestion – whoops!
Best response could be ‘When shall I order the taxi?’
I kind of tried that.
Back to NCIS special agent Gibbs, if he isn’t smacking special agent Danozo in the back of the head he will say “You Think?” The irony from that e-mail was so rich that you could put it on a trowel and slap it against a wall like plaster.
That’s a clever way of putting it!
Duh does it.
I think it’s even in the dictionary now!
Julie, if anyone should know … you does .. and it’s not only Ant’s that is lonely … you’re lonely too in all this. Just idiots and not worth your thoughts and emotions. I would just ignore them, answer their email and ignore the comment.
Thanks Viveka – this means a lot as most people only worry about Anthony’s loneliness – not mine.
Of course you’re lonely in this situation and so is Ming … and you both are more aware of your loneliness than Al is about his, at times.
If someone says the obvious, i.e., a stupid, if well-meaining, remark, one can respond by saying, “No kidding, really?” HOWEVER, your voice should drip with sarcasm!
Right now, I can’t think of a word that would express that though, in writing!
I sent a reply saying that, yes, he was very lonely so I wouldn’t get his hopes up re a visit to theirs.
Good grief.
He’s projecting his guilt onto you.
She.
Sorry.
No need – silly!
😀
At least they noticed, even if they didn’t think about it for more than a second.
True.
“You are so right. Anthony is very lonely. That’s why I know how much he would appreciate a visit to your house while he is still able to. Please let me help with the taxi arrangements.”
Tried that!
Keep digging for gratitude, Julie. Duh moments come and go, but thank you moments lodge in your heart. {{{hugs}}} Kozo
Okay and thanks Kozo.
Duh is right! Duh, yes, he’s lonely. A good question to the person would have been – So, what are YOU going to do about it?
Cheeky!
I totally agree with Bulldog – “No shit, Sherlock??????” is one of my favourite sayings 😉 That’s what this person deserves…
I hadn’t heard it before!
Duh isn’t an eloquent word but it sure fits this situation.