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Subtle and sudden shifts

on June 17, 2013

Anthony’s recent shift from despondency to humour has been gradual, subtle, under-stated, whereas my inexplicable shift from sad to happy has been sudden and boisterous.

I know that part of these shifts are to do with our mutual acceptance of the reality of our situation but, if so, why didn’t we accept this months ago?

Oh who cares why – we are happy again!


37 responses to “Subtle and sudden shifts

  1. So good to hear. Love the idea of Anthony’s humour being boisterous!

  2. I really admire how you’re sharing your stories.

  3. Rhonda says:

    beautiful and you’re right…who cares why! xo

  4. Ms. Boice says:

    Oooh, I’m so glad to hear that. And I live how you take weekends off from blogging. Is it helping?

  5. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography) says:

    Acceptance is part of the healing (of grief).

  6. elizabeth says:

    🙂 Happy’s good!

  7. Terry says:

    grab a hold of those happy times and squeeze them, then stick them in your memory box for the sad days so you can pull them back out and smile again

  8. That’s great news for both of you.

  9. I am glad – enjoy your happiness

  10. viveka says:

    Humour make such difference to our life …. laughter and great sense of homour is the best medicine there is. So happy that you’re okay first of all – and if Anthony is happy and cheerful, I know you are too.

  11. This is simply wonderful 🙂

  12. bulldog says:

    This is good to read Julie…

  13. So glad to hear!
    Happy, happy, happy for YOU 🙂

  14. What is that old saying again?…don’t look a gift horse in the mouth..? I’m glad for you that you can enjoy these moments, in the moment, when they come…

    xo
    Diana

  15. tersiaburger says:

    There came a time when the doctor put my Dad on an anti-depressant. It really helped. He went from an unhappy, frustrated, angry man to his old kind gentle self. There was still the odd flare-up, but it was isolated. I am so glad things are better at the moment. Lots of love Julie xxx

  16. Happy is good. Right? Sometimes I’m not so sure.

  17. janeslog says:

    Life can often be a roller coaster of emotions for everyone. Everyone of us gets depressed at some points in our lives, but there are always the happy times to remember. Remember the happy times.

    I worked with a blind boy who was born with very poor eyesight and lost his sight completely when he was about 8 years old. He was then sent to the Royal Blind School in Edinburgh as a boarding pupil and was separated from his parents who lived 50 miles away in Glasgow.

    Did he ever feel bitter about losing his sight and having to grow up without seeing his parents every day? No. He got on with his life because nothing was ever going to bring him back his eyesight. He was very calm about it, never screamed or cried and managed to get about with the help of his black labrador.

    He was well educated, could use a computer with special software and had a braille machine as a backup to the computer. He looked at the positive aspect of his life and made the most of them.

    Anthony has good days and bad days but try and remember the good days. They will make you smile. Try and not dwell on the bad days as they will only make you cry. You don’t want to cry – you want to laugh and smile.

  18. glad to hear this Juie

  19. fgassette says:

    YOU ARE BEING BLESSED!

    BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!

  20. Robyn Lee says:

    YAY ~ SOOOOO thrilled to know this — i agree – why is not an issue – just bask! xo

  21. We all have times when we think why did it take me so long to get here…………..the answer because it did and you reached that point at the right time for you………….

  22. acceptance will come and go, just embrace it. so good to know you are having these moments to remember.

  23. Sounds like the blogging break did you some good!

  24. Judith Post says:

    Some things take time to accept, but you’re there now. That’s all the matters.

  25. Lynda says:

    Good! 😀

  26. FlaHam says:

    Julie, “Oh who cares why – we are happy again!” that truly sums it up, and is the most important thing, your both happy. Take care, Bill

  27. So very very happy for both of you!!!

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