wings and things


on October 27, 2013

I have just watched the 6th episode of Ricky Gervais’ Derek, and am struck mostly by the way it portrays a nursing home environment and the kindness of carers (rather idealized, nevertheless nearly real). It broke my heart to watch this because, as many of you know, my husband, Anthony, is now in a nursing home; but it also made me laugh because I can relate to many of the antics. I think this is a series that all who work in nursing homes should watch because it re-humanizes the people they are caring for. My gratitude to Wattle Hill Lodge staff for caring for my husband is something that leaps into my mind and heart every morning when I wake up without him here at home.

The kindness expressed, via gifts from friends to the children, facebook messages and blog support, to my family – my mother, brothers, sister-in-laws and to all of the children injured in the car accident two weeks ago, including my niece’s best friend (the niece still in hospital) – are so appreciated.

One of my brothers and his beautiful wife are all home now with their three injured-but-recovering children. K (11-yr-old nephew with the broken femur) is excited that his best friend has broken his arm in a trampoline mishap – well, not excited but you know what I mean. M (K’s twin) took her broken fingers and toe to a disco last night, still wearing her neckbrace! And T (also still in neckbrace) continues to stand tall and to support all of us with her amazing attitude and grace.

My other brother and his beautiful wife are in a more tenuous situation as they await their daughter, S’s spinal brace to be fitted so she can get out of that hospital bed. I know/pray she will make a full recovery long-term but at the moment it’s all very emotional and anxious for all of us.

The moments of absolute fury that this happened have been alleviated by the kindness expressed to all of us. Thanks to all. And thanks, Ricky Gervais, for a different perspective on the act of kindness.

24 responses to “Kindness

  1. mimijk says:

    There’s a lot of love for you and your family out here in the universe Jules..

  2. FlaHam says:

    Julie, there is a lot of love in your family and extended family, and it is showing itself in so many ways. In each way it also shows that the healing is going along well. Please take care, Bill

  3. Terry says:

    that sounds like a good show. I have never heard of it before. I am not sure if it is on here or not

  4. Hon. Forgive. Yourself.

  5. Colline says:

    Your description of the children shows how resilient children are and how they bounce back from tradegy.

  6. Lynda says:

    Glad to know you are feeling more comforted, Julie. We all love you.

  7. janeslog says:

    Some people are very kind and some people are selfish and only care for themselves. I think I can safely say I fall into the former rather than the latter category.

    You hear of people risking their lives to rescue people then you hear of low lives mugging pensioners and stealing their pension money.

    Always appreciate those who show great kindness towards you – they are the good guys. However, there are also the bad guys. Watch out for them.

    Matthew 7:15 says “Watch out for false prophets.They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves”.

  8. tootlepedal says:

    I hope the spinal brace fitting goes as planned and all the children are home safely soon.

  9. Rhonda says:

    Derek is one of my favorite shows Jules…and I cried with almost every episode. And Mimi’s right, there’s a LOT of love for you and yours out here in the universe…and always will be…xo

  10. janechese says:

    Gee, I wish I could see that show, “Derek”-maybe on Netflix.

  11. Good to hear that you are your family are sticking together through it all. Wishing everyone a full and quick recovery.

  12. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography) says:

    Kindness is universal Julie.

    One tends not to notice it so much (until you have a personal situation or tragedy) and then it becomes more obvious just how much there is around when the tide turns (and it floods in).

  13. Kindness is an attribute that can make such a difference in this world that we live in…. Much love to you and your family as they recover…. physically and emotionally… Diane

  14. A little kindness and understanding goes a long way, I feel that those who chose to work with the elderly and frail are special people on the whole yes there are not so nice people as well but most are special and caring people. I hope your family all recover well from the trauma they have suffered

  15. So glad you are ALL starting to heal xx

  16. ksbeth says:

    there is great power in kindness. happy you are all on your way back )

  17. adinparadise says:

    It sounds like you and your family are in need of lots of love and kindness at the moment, not forgetting k’s best friend. Here’s another BIG Hug from me. 🙂

  18. Time does help in these instances as well as kindness, love and patience and you and your family have that in spades. I am thinking of you and Ming 🙂

  19. Kindness and courage are what keeps us going.

  20. tersiaburger says:

    You are always on my mind. I am so relieved and grateful that everyone is recovering well. How is Ming doing?

  21. Judith Post says:

    Glad everyone’s going to be all right. It sounds as though everyone’s ready to heal and move on. It takes a minute.

  22. There is a lot to be said about kindness, and nursing and hospital staff are often some of the kindest people you’ll meet. I am sorry your family is still experiencing the aftereffects of the car accident, but so glad they are one by one getting up and getting on. I can’t imagine how the past two weeks have been. wish you and your family rapid healing.

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