wings and things


on December 20, 2013

Ming was allowed to come home today, three days after his surgery which was a fantastic surprise (we were told he’d be in hospital until Christmas Eve). I’d been staying in a hotel for a couple of nights and coming and going to the hospital, but checked out yesterday, planning to visit Ming then go home to the farm to feed and water the dogs, birds and alpacas, only to be told he’d be discharged today! So I quickly rang a friend to see if she could do the animals and checked back into the hotel for another night.

Yesterday Ming was still attached to the pain+antibiotic drip, a catheter, and a blood drain thingy, oxygen, and he could hardly get out of bed and walk a few steps, but today he was free of the various tubes and fighting fit – amazing! It is 8pm here and we got home around an hour ago. Ming is in a lot of pain but has three kinds of painkillers so is now in bed.

One of the painkillers has a strange side-effect – Mummy love! It is so hilarious; on Tuesday evening when he finally came out of surgery, he kept looking at me woozily and saying, “Oh, Mummy, give me your hand, hold my hand, I want to have a cubble (cuddle), you are the best mummy in the whole wide world, oh I love you so much” etc. If I let his hand go for a moment, he would yell, “Mummy, I need your hand! Muuuuuuummmmmmmyyyyyyyyy!”

Now this would have been okay if (a) he had a private room, and (b) he had a quiet voice. But he was in a shared room with three men who were all chuckling every time Ming yelled out, “Mummy, hand – where’s your hand?” After a couple of hours of this I started to get a bit embarrassed and sick of holding his stupid hand! His nurse was laughing hysterically (but quietly) at his antics and, as Ming got sleepier, she helped me remove my hand from his so I could escape to my hotel and have a well-earned wine.

My hand is still aching from his grip – so funny!

And so absolutely wonderful!

Note: Thank you so much to my WordPress and Facebook, and other friends and family (especially my own mother) for all of your prayers, wishes and messages to us. I haven’t had time to reply properly but please know how much your comments, care and love is appreciated by Ming and Muuuuummmmmyyyyy!

78 responses to ““Mummy!”

  1. Oh Ming, I’m sorry to have laughed at your drug induced Mummy Love. But it IS funny. πŸ™‚ I’m glad all went well and he is home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a relief this must be.

  2. Nice! So glad all went well. Merry Christmas!

  3. Such wonderful news, Julie. Good thoughts for a speedy recovery continue from Connecticut!

  4. Colline says:

    So funny! And yet so special. It just goes to show how much he loves you πŸ™‚

  5. cecilia says:

    That is just crazy!! Deep down he is a cuddle bug!! And oh what a joy it is to have your own son home in his own bed, in his own home. Wonderful news.. c

  6. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography) says:


    (and here’s me about to take some heavy duty analgesics to try and get some sleep because my jammed finger is still hurting after 36 hours… I a wimp!).

  7. mimijk says:

    Woohoo!! So glad he’s home and all is well…

  8. niasunset says:

    This is great news dear Julie, I am so happy as much as you. And yes, Ming made me smile too… Blessing and Happiness, love, nia

  9. Soooooo Funny!…. Glad he’s home and okay…. you’ve got your hands full so I’m sure won’t have a lot of time for blog comments etc. for a while…. Diane

  10. Utterly charming! You did say Ming doesn’t read the blog, didn’t you? πŸ˜‰ Delighted to hear he’s home so quickly. Perhaps you should keep some of that painkiller aside for when he’s not in such a great mood…

  11. tersiaburger says:

    My precious friend. I am so grateful that all went well. The after-care is almost more important that anything else. When Jared had his surgery last year he made Vic promise that her face would be the first thing he saw…They are still little boys captured in adult bodies

  12. Judy says:

    I am chuckling! Whatever that medicine was – please tell me so I can slip a tiny bit into one of kids. When they are in pain, they take it out on me and are horribly grumpy. Actually, you might have to delete this post, because if Mings sees it he will be more red-faced than a fireball!

  13. What a wonderful story! And so happy to hear you are home and that Ming is recovering with your love as his guide… and your hand as his ballast! Lovely.

  14. viveka says:

    Julie, so sorry for not being visiting you – had a rough couple of weeks. I didn’t know that Ming has gone in for operation … so glad that he is home with you … and that things has turned out great with the operation. Mummy is always mummy.
    My mum always said when people where asking how things was with me (during my years aboard) – She must be fine, because she hasn’t phoned … *smile – that is what it’s is … when we don’t feel good, mum is the best medicine and doctor on earth.
    Send my regards to Ming.

    • jmgoyder says:

      Love you and think of you a lot my friend. You are so generous when you are going through so much. Thank you and happy Christmas.

      • viveka says:

        Julie, I always enjoy landing in your world and be able to share what it is about …. you’re very special to me, I hope you can feel that.
        I wish you … and your boys only the best for 2014.

  15. So happy to hear that Ming’s op went well and that his Mummy Appreciation is still high. What a precious and beautiful thing – so honest and raw and vulnerable. That must surely be the best Christmas gift ever. Sending much love to you, Nicole xx

  16. lensgirl53 says:

    YAY for Mummy and Ming! “Mummy love” is good. I am glad to hear of Ming’s quick recovery. I wish you a Merry Christmas.

  17. ksbeth says:

    that is so funny and good news for all of you. happiest of holidays to you )


  18. So good to hear this news Jules. You are so amaXing that you took the time to share with us here. Thank you for that, you all have been in my thoughts and prayers. I experienced the same kind of mommy love when my daughter was in the hospital post brain surgery. It’s very validating at a time when nothing else feels as sweet. Santa came early to you & yours this year. This post I REALLY like.
    Merry Christmas my friend. ~

  19. haha that is so cutie and funny! too bad someone wasn’t capturing that on a video!

  20. Great to hear he’s doing OK. Glad he’s home for Christmas

  21. janechese says:

    Funny, and he will be SO embarrassed when he comes off the painkillers.. sounds like everything went well, which I am happy to hear. Take care, all.

  22. So glad to know that Ming has come through the surgery okay. I did have a giggle at your “Mommeeee!! ” story. I bet he won’t believe you when you tell him……if you tell him. πŸ™‚ Merry Christmas to you and your zoo. πŸ™‚

  23. What a relief!!! And, adorably funny, made me laugh for real, still am. Way to go, Ming! Way to go Mummy!!! May the blessings continue. Love, Paulette

  24. FlaHam says:

    Julie, Give me, give me, give me, your haannddd ! ! ! ! That is so cute, I get the same way when I am 3 sheet to the wind. I get very lovie dovie LOL LOL, I know Ming is glad to be home, I am so glad he will be t here for Christmas with you, and I am especially glad your getting your grip back. Don’t want not broken wine glasses to be causing problems. Julie, I wish Ming a very speedy recovery. Merry Christmas, your gift came home early. Take care, Bill

  25. My 27 year old had a knee re-construction earlier this year, so the ‘I want mum-m-m-m-y doe not end at age 19 πŸ™‚
    I do hope that everything went well with the operation and Ming makes a great recovery.
    I have enjoyed your posts this year….. I do not always have time to respond.
    I am off-air for three weeks. Have a joyous Christmas and I will β€˜see’ you again in the new year.

  26. Trisha says:

    I laughed and got tears in my eyes when reading about Ming’s Mummy love. That’s precious! I hope it lasts. My step father got really mean when on pain meds! I’m glad to hear Ming is home and doing well. It’s amazing how quickly the young bounce back!

  27. How absolutely sweet and adorable. It reminds me exactly of when the baby girl had had her tonsils out. Aren’t they always our babies? I am sending hugs to you and Ming!

  28. Terry says:

    A son never leaves his mummy entirely. He just proved it!!!!! So glad it is all over and you are both home

  29. Anonymous says:

    So precious. And funny

  30. bulldog says:

    “Drug love” now I need some of those pills every now and then… specially when dealing with our government officials…

  31. janeslog says:

    Good news he is over the operation and out of hospital. Better to be out in case he catches an infection. Painkillers are funny things. Some people are okay and others have funny side effects from them.

    He can sit in the sun to recuperate during the day. Have a nice Christmas.

  32. How lovely. I hope his recovery goes well, and he still needs his mummy when he is feeling better, and off the medicines. πŸ™‚

  33. Glad things went well and are over! You need a supply of that drug for the times when he is not so fond of his mummy. πŸ™‚

  34. How great that he was out of hospital so soon, hope he is resting and recovering while his mummy looks after him

  35. Judith says:

    I wish they could bottle that with a short–one or two hour–life span. Our boys love us, but they’re not all that cuddly anymore:) They’d rather cuddle girlfriends.

  36. Amazing kid. I hope all continues to improve quickly.

  37. elizabeth says:

    That was hilarious Julie, oops, Mummmmmmmmmy! πŸ™‚ Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family.

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