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My son, the honest actor

on April 29, 2014

Earlier today I put Ming on a train to Perth because he has applied for numerous roles in various films, including a music video. It’s mostly “extra” work so not paid but I admire his tenacity in trying to get ‘out there’ as an actor. One of the roles requires him to be a scruffy guy at a strip club; another requires him to be a sophisticated guy at a strip club; and the music video requires him to be a NeoNazi in a story about how a young son murders his Nazi father.

Yes, well, mmmm. Anyway, Ming will be staying with various relatives and friends for the next four days and nights. Tonight he will be staying with my eldest niece and her husband (you know, the beautiful people).

The following night, he will be staying with one of his best friends, and for the last two nights he will be staying with relatives from Anthony’s side of the family.


Ming hasn’t gone off for many adventures like this and I just realized that I have never been alone on this farm for as long as four days (one or other of the ‘boys’ would be here), so it feels very strange.

The brat’s interests are music and drama (both of which he is good at, but, even though he has some formal qualifications, these are very difficult industries to get into).

I am hoping so much that he might simply be noticed.


Before I dropped Ming off at the train station, we went to our lawyer’s office to give him a gift of red wine and he invited us into his space to have a chat. It wasn’t like our previous chats because, now that the court case is miraculously over, we could just be ourselves without the professional distance. I wanted to hug the lawyer (as I had done just after the verdict last week), but I restrained myself.

Ming was told previously that one of the repercussions of the accident was that he might have to do community service by accompanying the police to schools in order to talk about his/our extended family’s experience. We were told last week that this was no longer a necessity but Ming still wants to do this and I support his decision.

In a way, this will be another unpaid acting role but, this time, it will be the real thing. Ming told me this afternoon that he continually replays that night in his head, with ‘what if?’ questions a never-ending dream sequence, and with the ‘why?’ question still hanging its head in shame.

The fact that all of the children who were injured are okay now, in a forever way, spurs Ming on to wanting to warn the rest of us to be more protective, corrective and vigilant – AND to dispel notions of easygoingness when it comes to children, because you just

30 responses to “My son, the honest actor

  1. cobbies69 says:

    Wishing Good luck to him… πŸ˜‰

  2. susanpoozan says:

    This to wish Ming lots of good fortune, may his dreams come true.

  3. bulldog says:

    I wish Ming all the luck in the world… I seem to have missed what his final outcome was from the court case.. I assume you posted on your blog, please can you give me a link to it… Stay safe on the farm alone… and I have to say of the last photo…. not a bad looking Aussie, even if I have to say it myself…

    • jmgoyder says:

      Oh bulldog, it is such great news – Ming’s charges were reduced – it’s ‘the verdict post’ – a fine and 3 months loss of licence – could’ve been so much worse!

  4. Terry says:

    One thing I love about Ming is his positive outlook on life. It will take him far. You raised him right mom

  5. Good luck, Ming. What a great opportunity. I admire his spirit and the fact that he wants to make something positive out of the terrible accident. Thank heavens, all’s well that ends well. πŸ™‚

  6. Who knows? One day he may be famous. πŸ™‚

  7. niasunset says:

    Good Luck to him πŸ™‚

  8. Vicki says:

    Any experience is good experience so whatever the result I wish him the very best of luck in his auditions.
    I know doing this community work will go a long way to dispelling his ‘replays’. He will feel as though he is ‘paying’ for his mistake and helping others be aware of their actions and how easily it can happen to them.

  9. Good luck Ming in your real and imaginary acting.

  10. Enjoy the solitude! And “break a leg” to Ming!!!

  11. I’m rooting for Ming.

    Can I have his autograph? I’m figuring it will be worth quite of money a bit some day…

  12. Judy says:

    I read your words and was laughing because I thought you wrote: “My son, the hottest actor!” Well, he sure is. What a beautiful story; dreams do come true. πŸ™‚

  13. Rhonda says:

    Break a Leg Ming (this is a GOOD thing btw) and these photos are GREAT Jules!

  14. FlaHam says:

    Julie, You must be exceedingly proud of Ming, he is becoming a very good citizen, and is maturing into a very good young man. Take care, Know your good work has not gone unnoticed. Bill

  15. I hope he gets noticed too and am so proud of him for wanting to do presentations at schools! You must be so proud as well. Hope you don’t go nuts alone Julie!
    Diana xo

  16. you have taught your son well–what a lovely upstanding person he is and I am so sorry this happened to him, but I will bet he will do whatever he can to make up for his “mistake”

  17. Trisha says:

    I wish Ming luck on his adventure. He has a look of fame about him!

  18. ksbeth says:

    what a wonderful and positive post, jules.

  19. tootlepedal says:

    Ming deserves a break so I hope that he gets one.

  20. Anonymous says:

    I think Ming has a great future, if not in acting then there is something else.He has a heart of goodness and the ability to communicate this with with others.Go, Ming ,go!

  21. I am sending Ming tons of good wishes and luck. Somehow I think that Ming will definitely get noticed. πŸ™‚ It is so very heartwarming to know that Ming wants to do the community service anyway, what a sweetheart!

  22. I think it is wonderful that he wants to do the talks in the schools, so many young people do not see how dangerous what he did can be, hope the acting goes well for him and he has a blast doing it

  23. Anonymous says:

    Hi Jules it’s Ains from the planet Perth! Good luck to Ming – he looks a natural and sounds like he’s been through an ordeal that has shown a true strength of character. Enjoy your 4 days on your own – I would loooove that! πŸ˜‰ I still aspire to get down to see you this year – just gotta string three days off in a row with no commitments. I will work on it – meanwhile if you’re ever in Perth please call and I’ll come to you. πŸŒΊπŸŒ»πŸŒΉπŸ€πŸŒΈπŸŒ·πŸ’

  24. viveka says:

    Julie, Ming has a great life ahead of him – and what ever the verdict will be – will he come out good from it, He has his music and his friends, he has you … I think he has done brilliant through the whole process and you can be so proud of him. And he so handsome, so likeness Anthony .. but taller, I guess.
    This last photo is so good … he could become a model too. Good luck, Ming!!!! Stay safe and be good to mum!!!!

  25. bluebee says:

    Good luck, Ming πŸ˜€

  26. Good luck for Ming’s new adventures. He is turning into a fine young man and I am sure you are proud of him.

  27. You have raised an incredible son. I applaud his decision to do the public service work. It shows what an impact that accident had on him. It shows he can learn from his mistakes. Something not everyone can do.

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