wings and things


on July 27, 2015


Not long after one of Anthony’s nephews had visited us the other day (at the nursing home), during which we all shared a lucid conversation, Ants suddenly said ….

Anthony: I need a dressmaker.


Anthony: A dressmaker. I want to make a dress.

Me: But I don’t wear dresses! I’d rather eat a raw egg than wear a dress! I HATE dresses!

Anthony: Not for you.

Me: So who do you want to make a dress for?

Anthony: For Stuart [this is not the real name of the nephew].

Me: Why the hell would Stuart want a dress?

Anthony: I just want to make him one.

Me: Anthony, are you kidding around or are you really crazy?

Anthony: Just find me a dressmaker, Jules.

Me: Okay, if you say so.

By then I could no longer contain my laughter at the image of Stuart in a dress that Anthony had somehow made for him. I hugged Anthony tight, guffawing, then told him I still loved him even though he was stark, raving mad – and he gave me one of his wonderful smiles.


This is, by far, the most bizarre conversation I have ever had with Anthony because I couldn’t find a reference point for it. I am wondering today if it could be the outfits worn by the cast of The Good Wife (a series we are watching), but that still wouldn’t explain why Anthony would want to make a dress for his nephew!

One of the things I have decided to stop doing, though, is to try to make sense of nonsense. And I am not being disparaging of Anthony when I say that he often talks nonsense because this is a fact.


Okay so I tease him a bit when he talks nonsense but that’s all part of the fun really. In fact, I actually find our nonsense conversations absolutely fascinating and much more pleasant than these …..

Anthony: When are you taking me home?


Me: I can’t. You’re too heavy. Stop asking me to do the impossible.

Anthony: I’m sorry I’m such a disaster.

Me: You’re not a disaster. You have Parkinson’s disease.

Now those no-nonsense conversations are the ones that are heartbreaking.

I prefer nonsense!


Note: I took a whole lot of photos yesterday to show Anthony today in the hope that he will feel as if he has been home.


38 responses to “Nonsense!

  1. I think a lot of life is trying to make sense out of nonsense. Not sure why we keep trying.

  2. gorgeous photos Julie x

  3. Vicki says:

    I would probably find these bizarre conversations normal, Julie.
    But then I always was a bit strange. πŸ˜€

  4. Judy says:

    This all makes perfect sense to me. Humor is such great medicine. Keep laughing together!

  5. You have a bloody awesome home, and a nonsense conversation is better then no conversation

  6. susanpoozan says:

    What a truly bizarre conversation, you didn’t say what Anthony made of the photographs?

  7. arlene says:

    At least he made you laugh and that is truly priceless πŸ™‚

  8. I love hearing your everyday chit-chat, nonsense or not.

  9. I love the pictures, I feel as if I could recognize your place now if I ever drove by. πŸ˜€ I hope your nephew has the legs for that new dress Anthony is having made for him πŸ˜‰

  10. aFrankAngle says:

    Love the way you make nonsense work … thus a cheer for your character. … now make that dress for Stuart!

  11. I think his nonsense conversations are to do exactly what you did-make you laugh. And let him set the mood. πŸ™‚

  12. lensgirl53 says:

    I am learning about those nonsense conversations with my mom who was recently put in a nursing home a thousand miles away from me. I call her twice a day but she is not accepting being in there. Our conversations go from lucid to nonsense in the time it takes to inhale exhale. I have learned to go with the moment since that is all she is in. For some reason, your conversation with Ants made sense to me… that crazy or what? Love to you Jules.

  13. ksbeth says:

    you’ve come a long way. just accept and smile with the whimsy of it all )

  14. tootlepedal says:

    I hope that Anthony enjoys the pictures even more than I did.

  15. artfulanxiety says:

    Your home is beautiful. So nice and green!

  16. Yes, did he like the photos?

  17. Trisha says:

    I love the photos of the farm. You have an amazing home!

  18. Terry says:

    You have to laugh at stories like this; otherwise we would cry together

  19. beautiful pics and amazing colors! i personally prefer nonsense as well. it is when we have to have the talks about a real situation that i balk. to laugh is heavenly and good for us. sometimes chris can’t hear what is said to him but he answers anyway! usually people are too polite to ask or laugh, angie and i are not above laughing though:)

  20. Lynda says:

    So long as you both are laughing, does it have to make sense?
    Julie, I love your beautiful farm pictures! So GREEN!!!
    (We’re a bit parched here for the moment. It’s HOT and all the available moisture is making for juicy air you can wear!)

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