jmgoyder

wings and things

Chapter 27: Warning signs [1995…]

on September 9, 2021

I married a robust, healthy macho machine but this very quickly changed. Anthony began to succumb to one disease after another. Good friends laughingly suggested that marriage didn’t agree with him. I, too, laughed through my tears of empathy when Anthony was diagnosed with a kidney cancer that entailed two operations because the first one erroneously deemed the tumour benign.

For richer or poorer and in sickness and health: I was prepared, but not prepared enough. In marrying someone 23 years my senior, I knew that one day in the far future he would be old and I would still be relatively young. I didn’t forsee the illnesses and I certainly didn’t forsee Parkinson’s disease dementia.

The deregulation of the dairy industry was a terrible blow but Anthony had already retired by then and we had a contingency plan. I think it was more the way the dissolution of his partnership with the younger brother affected him. It wasn’t just the fact the Anthony was put into a situation where he had to choose between his wife and his brother, it was also how the many years of waiting for his brother to sign the dissolution, that he himself (brother) had orchestrated, began to take its toll on Anthony’s health.

Anthony tried so hard to please his younger brother, financially and emotionally but our marriage was still deemed a kind of scar and still is.

Was Anthony’s Parkinson’s dementia exacerbated by the above? Yes.

It killed him.


7 responses to “Chapter 27: Warning signs [1995…]

  1. Anonymous says:

    Hard reliving such trauma. Is the telling of the story, healing? Or not.

  2. Who I am says:

    We never know what the future brings us and it’s a good thing, because we may miss out on wonderful days, such as you had

  3. What hard and emotional times

  4. tootlepedal says:

    Tough times all round.

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