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Frolicking, rollicking rage

Son is experiencing some predictable rage due to the frustration of not being able to do very much within the confines of his chest-to-hip surgical brace.

Nevertheless, and despite my fear and trembling, I just asked Son if I could take a picture of him with Husband. He reluctantly agreed after I gave him a hot meat pie, some mango yoghurt and his favourite chocolates.

Son: She only wants the picture for that bloody blog, Dad.

Husband: Well, that’s okay isn’t it?

Me: Will you guys shut up and smile? Please!

Mostly Son is very good at restraining his rage but every now and then it unleashes itself in the form of a fake smile. Or maybe it’s best described as a forced smile – a smile before the storm? If he discovers I have blogged these photos I will be in big trouble!

So I’m going outside to find Godfrey because he’s not so scary!

Maybe I’ll just camp out tonight. Wouldn’t you? I mean look at this beautiful angry face – yikes!

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A diamond in the rough

This metaphor perfectly describes Diamond’s position in the hierarchy of geese here.

To recap, Diamond and Woodroffe are our two Sebastopol geese. Here they are together. Diamond is on the left and Woody is on the right and has that distinguishing ‘freckle’ on his forehead.

This is what they looked like when we first got them. Woody was just a few days old, but Diamond was a couple of weeks old. Diamond is the one in the middle. (The goslings at the back and fore-front are Ola and Seli our Pilgrims.)

Well, due to the fact that Woodroffe was just a newborn, he and I imprinted on each other bigtime but Diamond was much more nervous so s/he and I didn’t establish the same sort of bond. So. lately, when Woody rushes up to me and Diamond stands back, I make more of an effort to give Diamond more attention. After all, I love them all equally!

Here is Diamond – elusive, enigmatic, enchanting. This post is for her, or him – I still don’t know!

A diamond in the rough.

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Flexibility

Geese, with their long necks, have incredible flexibility. In the photo below, Pearl (on the left), appears to be giving herself a little hug!

The biggest drawback after scoliosis surgery is loss of flexibility. Son has had 12 of his 24 vertebrae fused, so this area of his back is now ramrod solid. The good news is that this middle area of the spine doesn’t require much flexibility anyway and Son still has the top and bottom of his spine to flex, dance, bend, lift, so he still has his shoulders and hips. If he wanted to, he could even preen himself the way Seli does in the following photo.

I love watching the geese preen themselves. This is Godfrey and Seli below. As you can see, Seli does actually have a head!

Okay, so Son is not a goose, but he will still be dancing, preening and spreading his wings again!

Okay, so he might not have as much flexibility as Pearl (picture below again) but you never know!

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Irony

I rather like irony.

Just before I checked out of my Perth hotel yesterday, a few birds suddenly appeared so I quickly photographed them.

The pigeon on the right was gently pursuing his mate on the left.

Some ironies are difficult to absorb. Since surgery, Son has now experienced almost all of Husband’s Parkinson’s symptoms: immobility, loss of control, confusion, hallucinations, pain, hopelessness, fear, but also resiliance, hope, determination … heroism.

The willy wagtail screeched at me just like the ones in our wash house do!

Another sudden irony: I have fallen in love (hehe!) with Son’s surgeon who just rang me and reassured me that, except for football, Son could do anything but it might take a bit of time. His spinal surgery was a great success and the curve had been corrected to around 34%. The surgeon said miscommunication is common post-op but that, as far as he was concerned, Son could go to the concert, get back on his motorbike, do anything he wanted to do and that it was up to Son to figure that out.

I rang Husband to tell him the good news, then I rang Son, who had visitors and asked me to ring back (!) so then I went and told Ola, named after one of my beautiful nieces, Olivia. Ola is, however, not a girl!

I rather like irony.

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Back to birding

Well, what an anti-climax my home-coming was this afternoon! I went straight to the bird yards to let the gang out thinking that they would greet me with expressions of relief and joy but, once I’d given them some lettuce, they lost interest in me and, within a minute of our reunion, they were off doing their usual thing – grazing, bathing, preening, cruising.

Both the ‘Bubbles’ were indifferent, the big Bubble particularly so. After they got their share of the lettuce, they just sauntered away. Baby Turkey didn’t even acknowledge me.

And the geese were even more indifferent to my renewed presence.

Even the peacocks had a definite air of ‘so what!’ about them when they saw me.

I feel a little indignant at their nonchalance; Godfrey didn’t even try to bite me and I’d been looking forward to our usual afternoon wrestling match.

What a bunch of bird brains!

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Waiting

Son, Husband and I have spent a lot of time in various doctors’ waiting rooms over the last year or so, waiting and waiting and WAITING.

I can’t stand waiting. If I am meeting someone for lunch or something and they are late, I get cross; if I am heading for traffic lights and they turn from green to orange, I race ahead because red lights make me see red, especially when the red takes a century to turn green; if I ask Son to do a chore and he says, “just give me a minute”, I want to strangle him; if I am on the freeway and I get stuck behind one of those morons drivers who is in the passing lane but doesn’t pass the the driver in the slow lane, grrrrr  … well, you get the picture.

So yesterday, while I waited for Son’s operation to be over with and for the hospital to ring me, the waiting nearly killed me. All of the seconds became minutes and all of the minutes became hours and all of the hours became days. I watched two videos in my hotel room (but I can’t remember what they were about); I went for walks around the city with my mobile phone clutched in my shirt pocket against my heart; I came back to the hotel and ate and drank everything from the minibar; I made a million phonecalls to tell people I was still waiting; I had three showers and two naps; I blogged; I read all of the magazines in the hotel room, so now I am an expert in Perth fashion; I rang the hospital five times; I rang Husband five times … well, you get the picture.

Since Son is still in ICU, I am staying in Perth for one more night and good friends are checking on animals for me. I’m sure Godfrey will be waiting too, with great anticipation, for my return. After all, it’s been nearly three days since he’s been able to do his favourite thing which is to bite me. Wait away, Godfrey!

And now I’m off to the hospital again (hotel is only two blocks away) to see Son and wait for his transfer from ICU to a ward. I have been told that this will happen some time after 4pm so I anticipate some more waiting – mmmmmmm!

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Yesterday

Yesterday, a friend said we had made a good decision in ensuring Husband’s permanency in the nursing lodge.

Yesterday, a friend said we had made a terrible mistake ‘putting’ Husband into a ‘nursing home’.

Yesterday, a friend said Son’s spinal operation was the best thing we could possibly do, and our only option.

Yesterday, a friend said spinal surgery was a bad idea, that Son might become paralysed and that, at the very least, he would lose flexibility.

Yesterday, a friend said that everything would be all right.

Yesterday, a friend said that things would be very difficult.

Yesterday, I wanted it to be Today.

So I went outside to see Pearl … because she doesn’t say anything.

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Favouritism

I don’t agree with favouritism but nobody can deny that it does happen – with kids, with pets, with friends and family, and – for me – with the birds. So, even though I don’t like the idea of favouring one breed over another, I am unable to deny that the geese are my favourites. Of course I love the chooks, ducks, peacocks, emus, guinnea fowl, golden pheasants, our new weiro and the wild birds too, but the geese have grabbed my heart and imagination more than any of the others.

This is probably because of the phenomenon of imprinting (see a previous post & http://www.thegoosesmother.com/id6.html) which, to some extent, works both ways. You see, except for Godfrey, our geese were raised from tiny goslings, whereas most of the other birds came to us a bit older. The following photo is of Ola and Seli (Pilgrim geese) on their first day outside (we had them in a box in front of the Aga beforehand).

And here is Ola now – she’s the one at the back of the ‘lake’. Pearl, our first Sebastopol goose, is in the middle (she deserves her own post so I will save that).

And here is Seli – again, at the back.

One of my favourite friends came over the other day and, as she was leaving, she said, with unintentionally wise wit, “Julie, you are such a goose!”

Mmmmm!

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Proximity cures phobia!

Yesterday, my niece, Ashtyn and her extremely bird-phobic mother, Julie, visited. Julie has suffered bird phobia ever since being given a rather wild weiro a couple of decades ago, so this visit took enormous courage! Ashtyn is a little nervous of birds too as you can see below!

But Julie was in a state of suppressed horror. As she has read my blog, she was particularly frightened of Godfrey who was just outside the frame of the picture below. Little did she realise that the evil Baby Turkey was even closer.

Eventually, she began to feel more at home with the birds. In the photo below you can see her biting her lip with determination not to scream!

And Ashtyn’s expression says it all!

For some reason, neither Julie or Ashtyn wanted to come into the emu yard. I’m not quite sure why….

Julie insisted on some soothing music so Son and Grandma obliged.

The unflappable Alpacas, Okami and Uluru, also had a soothing effect on Julie.

It was a visit full of hysterical laughter!

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Imprinting 2: On the other hand ….

Despite my last post, there is something about this imprinting thing that niggles at my sense of right and wrong, or whatever you want to call it – animal morality? Dunno.

It niggles in the same way that the idea of putting poultry in nappies (see a previous post – many moons ago), niggled. I think it niggles because there is something false and coercive about adopting a baby gosling, duckling, or any infant bird, with the express purpose of imprinting; it seems too much like animal experimentation, almost circus-like.

I put my hand up as someone who was ‘guilty’ of being interested in this imprinting thing – yes. However, when  it soon became apparent that Zaruma (our first duckling), and Pearl (our first gosling), much preferred each other’s company to mine, I realized how silly I was being. After all, they still love me too!

I guess I have always had a strong aversion to coercion so, unless a goose wants to come up and give me a cuddle (a rather bizarre but lovely thing if it happens naturally), I don’t ‘go there’.

Even if I wanted to, guess who would soon stop me? My competitor – Godfrey! And, despite our differences, I have to concede that he is a much better gosling-cuddler than I will ever be because, last time I looked in the mirror, I was still a human. Go Godfrey!

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