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wings and things

I remember

on February 10, 2013

I remember when you first winked at me
across the dining room table,
when your mother said I had overcooked the poached eggs.

You were 40 and I was a teenager
so the wink was just a wink of humour,
harmless and not flirtatious in the least

But that wink burrowed itself into my psyche,
made me ache for another wink….

If I hadn’t boiled the grapefruit marmalade all over the Aga,
a second wink might have happened sooner.
Oh well.

I remember when you first hugged me.
It was a week after my father died suddenly and I will never forget
the hesitation of that first hug,
your delight and nervousness,
your big, muscled arms,
my tears on your shoulder.

I remember the evening when you first understood me
as we bantered philosophical conundrums across the kitchen table
while your mother snored gently in the next room.

You don’t remember much of this, your eyes have forgotten how to wink, I banter as you snooze, and your arms no longer have the strength to hug me.

The time may come when you don’t remember who I am,
but I will never forget who you are,
my rock,
my light,
my reason,
my love,
my laughter.


92 responses to “I remember

  1. Simply beautiful, Julie. True love.

  2. smilecalm says:

    wonderfully keeping compassion alive, and in the light.

  3. SnapInTime says:

    This is beautiful. ❤

  4. dodsy says:

    my goodness!
    so very beautiful 🙂

  5. bluebee says:

    Sweet, sad, beautiful – life

  6. Beautifully expressed but sad none the less. Hope you have a good day
    Brenda

  7. What a beautiful post. What beautiful memories for you..

  8. victoriaaphotography says:

    Beautiful……but so sad.
    I’m not sure whether its good remembering the past, or too sad to think about.
    V
    xo

  9. This is so beautiful. There is someone like this in my life also. But though I feel the same amount of love for him, I could never have expressed it so well.

  10. Ahh beautiful Julie. Poetic and it seems you are the keeper of the memories for both of you – a sacred trust…

  11. bulldog says:

    Memories, pressed between the pages of my mind
    Memories, sweetened thru the ages just like wine,
    Memories, memories, sweet memories

    There is never a reason to erase a memory, be it good or be it bad… they all make us better people… the good ones — happier… the bad ones — stronger…

  12. Absolutely beautiful in its poignancy. What a love letter.

  13. mrs fringe says:

    Absolutely beautiful ❤

  14. In Blue says:

    These are celebrations of a life lived and full of love….

  15. Incredibly poignant, Julie…

  16. A lifetime of love in one poem. Jules, this is wonderful.

  17. meagan mac says:

    So moving, Julie. Beautifully written.

  18. Such a love you know and feel. You make me cry Jules. A good cry though.

  19. FacetsofLucy says:

    You have such a way with words. Your poem is so personal but expresses something universal…love. Thanks for sharing.

  20. terry1954 says:

    that is so precious and beautiful Julie

  21. cuhome says:

    This is so beautiful, Jules.

  22. What a loving post – and a touching one. Beautiful.

  23. What wonderful memories of how your love began…and of what it is still…Diane

  24. catchatcaren says:

    this was one of the most incredibly beautiful things I have ever read

  25. diannegray says:

    Absolutely beautiful, Julie….

  26. tornadoday says:

    The sweetest memories are often those watered by sorrow ~ but love makes it so. We don’t miss what we don’t love……… Beautiful, Julie. ~ Love, Bobbie

  27. So beautiful and so sad it says so much about dementia and how it tears those we love from us will still keepin the near by in body…………………

  28. sbcallahan says:

    the love story lives on

  29. jensine says:

    sounds like my daddy, he died a year and a half a go and it still hurts at times

  30. Oh my dear I feel sad, my prayers are flying your way

  31. dcwisdom says:

    What a beautiful valentine! That’s wonderfully sweet!

  32. adinparadise says:

    This is so wonderful, and extremely moving to read, Julie. Hugs to you.

  33. Lynda says:

    There are no superlatives left. Everyone else has already used them. That said, your love for Anthony is so deeply felt and your words describe it perfectly, Julie.

  34. Wow. Beautiful. Emotional. Heartbreaking. Telling.

  35. Tammy says:

    gorgeous – you made me cry

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