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An eventful year (1995)

on April 29, 2013

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In 1995, I got a part-time job at the local university lecturing in creative writing.

In 1995, Anthony was diagnosed with kidney cancer and had his left kidney removed

In 1995, Ming turned one, was baptised, went from crawling to running, learned how to clean his teeth, got into the vroom of things, slept peacefully, learned how to wash a car, yell HURRAY, climb mountains and open his own Christmas presents.

But, of the three of us, I am the only one who remembers any of this now because Ants is too old and Ming was too young.


45 responses to “An eventful year (1995)

  1. mrsbauthor says:

    These are beautiful memories. xoxo

  2. shoreacres says:

    The photos are just wonderful. I love the nap time photo, but there are several other “let daddy teach you how to do this” pics that are just great.

    And I’m glad you tagged it with “humour”. That last sentence just cracked me up – laughing out loud, for real. As my beloved mother would say now and then, “Ain’t it the truth?”

  3. How beautiful… I sat and thought about what you wrote… isn’t that amazing, you would be the only one to remember … I think I have photos like that, too. It’s amazing how things are forgotten in time… that’s why I think there should be a book about each person! :))) Those are such wonderful photos, memories… the love, pride in them so special.

  4. What an amazing and tumultuous year! You are the memory keeper and archivist and Ming is going to thank you for it, trust me! Big hugs 🙂

  5. I love the one of Ming in the bath. Such joy in them both!

  6. bulldog says:

    As long as someone remembers…lol

  7. Memory is sometimes a blessing and sometimes a lonely place to be.

  8. That’s why it’s great that record all these memories Julie! That first photo – I think that is the only photo I’ve ever seen where Ants is wearing big-boy pants (long trousers)! LOL

  9. These are beautiful memories to have Julie, even if you are the only one to remember. Treasure them, as I know you do. They are part of who you are and what you are as a family deep inside. Sending wishes your way …… 🙂

  10. sspjlife56 says:

    somewhere deep inside Ants will always know what a fantastic family he has. Ming may remember but is more into the now factor in his life and you dear Julie, will always carry everything in your heart

  11. I was thinking about “memories” the other day.
    Most people do not remember the first 2 or 3 years of their lives.
    But we don’t look at children and think they have dementia.
    My father had Alzheimer’s disease.
    In the end, he didn’t remember that he had raised 9 children.
    Interesting how we come into the world with no memory of the past and often leave with no memory of the past.
    I guess what has happened or what is going to happen is not as ‘real’ as the NOW.

  12. janechese says:

    This is great putting these photos together for all of you.I feel like I have gotten to know you three through your writing and am enjoying seeing the pictures. I see where Ming got his love of all things vroom and he is lucky that his father was so involved with him. This is proof even if they don’t remember.Giving you a big hug, Julie..

  13. Look at all of the smiling faces. Adore the sleeping picture. Your last sentence burns in to me. How important these moments are for all of you. And you the keeper get to be the bearer of good stories and happy moments when you share the stories and pictures, over and over again, with two people who love what they have with you. It’s the foundation of your love today. What a joy you are to them.

  14. What precious photos and memories. Love the sleeping, hand-holding one. You ought to frame it. 🙂

  15. By the way, I just listened to a Youtube series on the use of cocunt oil with those with dementia. You might want to give a listen. 5 parts, I think, but starts here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iScs0uzQZFk

  16. dcwisdom says:

    Lovely pictures. Lovely memories. A lovely legend to pass on.

  17. Lynda says:

    Lovely. All of it. (Except the kidney removal, of course!)

  18. Sweet pics. Aren’t you glad you took them?

  19. This is a great post – both happy (great photos) and sad (only you can remember it).

  20. grandmalin says:

    Your pictures tell a beautiful story. ♥

  21. Wonderful photos. Love the one of the two of them sleeping and Ming climbing up Ant’s leg. Precious.

  22. one is enough–what wonderful pics

  23. mimijk says:

    And by memorializing it, you give Ming the gift of memories that he would otherwise never know of.

  24. Julie, these are those moments every father remembers and every mother photgraphs. What a beautiful relationship those two must have had.

  25. Such great pictures to bring forth the memories…Perhaps you can share the memories with Ming through looking at them together Diane

  26. Jules, such beautiful pics – your two men are gorgeous! I have also been going down Memory Lane as Jai turned 21 on Anzac Day. When I visit next, I’ll bring some pics. xoxo

  27. tootlepedal says:

    Keep the memories alive.

  28. viveka says:

    The most beautiful photos …. love the one where they hold hands during sleep. “I am the only one who remembers any of this now because Ants is too old and Ming is too young”. – that really touched my heart. I’m sure Ant’s remember at times if you show him the photos … and Ming will know from those photos.

  29. camsgranny says:

    But the memories are forever etched into your mind, and THAT never changes…..

  30. Wow. That last sentence really packs a wollop. You should do what I do, keep telling your kid stories about when they were young, and he or she starts thinking they remember them happening.

  31. Great photos of father and son! Even if Ming doesn’t remember, these are wonderful for the memories.

  32. Trisha says:

    Wonderful, very special pictures of Anthony and Ming! I guess you have to cherish the memories for the both of them. But thank you for sharing them with all of us.

  33. At least you can remember for both of them all the good times and the busy years………..

  34. prayingforoneday says:

    The 5th picture down is just WOW…

    x

  35. annotating60 says:

    The important thing is that you remember, someone remembers.>KB

  36. Kozo Hattori says:

    Love these memories, Julie. Hope they are making you smile and grateful, the way they are making me smile and grateful. {{{hugs]}} Kozo

  37. victoriaaphotography says:

    What gorgeous photos of the two men in your life. Aren’t photos a great adjunct to actual memories.

    (sorry I am just catching up with recent posts through the WordPress Reader as I’m not getting email notifications and being ill last week didn’t even wonder why my gmail inbox was silent).

  38. fgassette says:

    WONDERFUL PHOTOS! I’m glad you have these photos. When there is no memory it is good to see photos of a precious time.

    BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!

  39. FlaHam says:

    Julie, These are such heart warming wonderful pictures. Thank you so much for sharing them. Please take care, Bill

  40. thank you again for sharing such beautiful moments with us. in the last years of my grandmother’s life i was the memory keeper, my son as yours, was too young. i have heard him since then telling some of these old stories to his own children. it can be heart breaking and exillerating at the same time.

    hope you are getting some much deserved down time, just don’t let yourself get too down my friend.

  41. elizabeth says:

    Amazing pictures Julie. You can see the immense love between father and son. Absolutely beautiful post. (even if it is a little sad.) x

  42. rachelmeeks says:

    Just discovered this moving blog – those photos are precious.

  43. Priceless pics! Ants complete joy in Ming is awesome to behold!

  44. Just wanted to stop by and let you know I’m thinking of you, and Ming and Ants, and that you’re in my thoughts, prayers and daily meditations. Much love to you xoxo

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