wings and things


on June 13, 2013

Anthony has always been really good at encapsulating what would take me paragraphs to describe. And, in between the worsening mumblingishness of his speech, he comes out with extraordinary witticisms.

This afternoon, for instance, we were drinking red wine and watching an appallingly good soap opera on TV when the guy in the next room (I’ll call him John for anonymity) accidentally walked in.

I see Anthony’s eyes, usually expressionless, harden. So I get up and gently steer John back into the hallway where a nurse takes his arm and tells him she has made a cup of tea. He looks back at me and says, Tomorrow we gistust this potatoes worry, okay?

Leaping back into Anthony’s room (before he drinks my wine!) I ask him about John.

What do you do when he comes into your room and disturbs you? I ask.

He looks at me really seriously and quietly says, PANIC!

I laugh so loud that a nurse comes in, worried that I am upset about the John incident. I tell her what Ants said and she guffaws too.

As I am leaving, I hug my husband and he whispers in my ear, I am making people laugh again, Jules!

So you’ve stopped the grumpy thing? I ask, hopefully (knowing that my gentle man has become uncharacteristically cantankerous lately).

But in just these few minutes of saying goodbye, he has gone somewhere and there is no point trying to follow him.

So I go to where my sobs won’t be heard – the disabled toilet near the exit from the nursing lodge – then I wash my face, put my lipstick back on, and go back to say seeya to Ants.


53 responses to “One-liners

  1. Cherish those moments ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. bulldog says:

    I do like his sense of humour…

  3. Little steps still get you and he back in sync. You are amazing. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. we all deal with panic in some form or other — I myself would prefer to laugh at it

  5. adinparadise says:

    Smiles and tears, Julie. Hugs to you.

  6. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography) says:

    I love Anthony’s sense of humour. Nice to hear he still comes out with those witty comments and better still, nice that you’re together to enjoy hearing them.

  7. Focus on those good moments, Julie. Thanks for sharing them.

  8. Bec Butcher says:

    You have managed to capture bitter sweet, heart warming and breaking journey of your day in one small blog. Isn’t that the purpose of a ‘one liner?’ I’m sure Anthony would agree.
    Stay well Julie and keep putting your lippy back on ๐Ÿ’™

  9. YOu inspire me with your courage, strength and love. Thank you.

  10. Terry says:

    what is it about John he doesn’t like?

  11. Oh my – that is so funny Julie!

  12. oh julie i am so sad and happy at the same time. what a gift that you can find laughter, he is indeed able to make people laugh again, in this moment. i won’t say i know what you are going through, just know that i send my love and big warm hugs.

  13. tersiaburger says:

    Today I was inspired by a wonderful blog to come up with an awardโ€ฆ.Someone has to create these awardsโ€ฆ. and I created the Rose of Kindness Award. I used a photo of Vic and my favorite rose as the award picture. I have nominated you for this award. I know awards get out of hand, but this one is special to me. I hope you accept. Lots of love and gratitude for the kindness you have shown me

  14. Wow. You really know how to send these moments with Ants right to our hearts. I feel like I am getting to know him.

  15. FlaHam says:

    Julie, There moments of 1000 pct clarity in what Ants says. I know it finds you, and sometimes surprises you, but I appreciate you sharing these moments. Please take care, Bill

  16. Sigh…you are doing well!

  17. Proof that a piece of him is still in there allowing him to express himself. It’s hopeful.

  18. Lynda says:

    Sometimes my heart breaks, and yet, you seem to soldier on. I love that he could make you all laugh, and I am certain that he was too. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  19. TBM says:

    He has a wonderful sense of humor.

  20. Judith says:

    Your posts are so poignant. Poor “John.” Hope he gets his potatoes sorted out.

  21. janeslog says:

    I am a bit disturbed with something you mentioned about – the bit about the ‘appallingly good soap opera on TV’. What!!

    Perhaps Australian TV is better than British TV, but when has there been a decent soap on TV? I have to confess we have not have a TV in our house since 1999, but I can still remember some of the drivel which was on then. The BBC and ITV had some good drama programmes, but their soaps were a bit depressing.

    I did like Prisoner from Cell Block A and enjoyed it even if it was also very depressing (that prison officer Vera was a nasty piece of work) but most of the other programmes were drivel and not worth the TV licence money.

    Stick to radio – the programmes are much better!

  22. janeslog says:

    Sorry, on the previous post it should have been Cell Block H.

  23. See. He doesn’t like Johns with an “h” either.

  24. It is those great onliners that will give you a high……………….

  25. camsgranny says:

    Sounds like a GOOD day! ๐Ÿ™‚

  26. Julie – his one-liners are perfect but your descriptive paragraphs are so graceful… ๐Ÿ™‚

  27. elizabeth says:

    “Panic!” A little gift from heaven. Loved it. ๐Ÿ™‚

  28. Fergiemoto says:

    What precious moments to see that sense of humor.
    Sending hugs to you.

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