jmgoyder

wings and things

Blog focus change

on August 5, 2013

I’ve decided to post my tidbits in daily diary fashion – just for awhile – as an experimental experiment This is because, for the last few months, I have lost focus, have entertained too much bewilderment, have been too sad etc. As a result, I kept forgetting each day’s beautiful details. From now on, I will remind myself via the conduit of this blog.

For example: Last week, Ming transitioned from an L-plater to a P-plater which means he can now drive by himself. The joy of his independence has been resonating in all sorts of different ways. Ming drove into town today and the first thing on his list was to visit Anthony in the nursing lodge.

When he got home, he said “Wow Mum it was so much better visiting Dad without you and your stress!”

I understand.


27 responses to “Blog focus change

  1. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography) says:

    Boys will be Boys.

    So glad to hear they had some quality one-on-one time together.

  2. from the mouths of grown up babes!

  3. KDKH says:

    I’m glad they now have an opportunity to deepen their relationship as two men, Rather than parts of a trio. And you don’t have to coordinate their relationship, either. Great! More peace in your life coming your way!

  4. Super idea to focus on the small things. Ha ha – Ming is such a sweetie!

  5. Rhonda says:

    Well geez kid….It’s great that the visit was so good….but let’s keep our mind open to learning a new lesson here….you don’t ALWAYS have to say what’s on your mind! At least not THAT way. Understandable as it is Jules…kind of thinking I’d like to see Ming use a bit more empathy and a tad more grace here. Sorry, but just how I feel. Good luck with the new format…but for me? Anything you put on and no matter HOW you put it on…it’s all good. xoxo

  6. Rhonda says:

    Oh…and the word I was struggling for was T A C T!!!!!

  7. You’ve gotta to do whatever works best for you and your daily life. Congrats to Ming!

  8. That is wonderful for both Ming and yourself, he can now drive independently. I’m sure that Anthony was very proud to see Ming come to visit him on his own. I’m sure that you were as well. I’m sending you hugs and happy thoughts so that you feel better. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. And maybe you can visit without Ming. How cool is that you both can have one-on-ones with Anthony!

  10. So, what do the L and P stand for – Learning and Professional? I hope you are feeling better!

  11. tootlepedal says:

    Of sharper than a toothless snake it is to have a thankless child as Shakespeare pointed out but that’s life.

  12. adinparadise says:

    Congrats to Ming. Great that he and Anthony can spend time together. *hugs*

  13. Kids and their honesty. ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. Terry says:

    I have to giggle a bit about Ming’s remark. Was that saying you are completely stressed out? Or was Ming just showing that he had the power to go see Dad without Mom now?? LOL, either way my friend, being a wife and a mom and a caregiver is stressful in itself. I like your idea of posting tidbits. I wish I was that way. I tend to pour out my entire guts on these posts

  15. Trisha says:

    Kids just say the sweetest things.

  16. Sometimes the young don’t understand the impact of what they say… but a ‘mother’ does… Diane

  17. elizabeth says:

    LOL Ming is such a wonderful lad. I’m sure he meant it was nice to be just him and his dad. ๐Ÿ™‚

  18. I think that will make for good reading.

  19. FlaHam says:

    Julie, I will read and enjoy whatever and however you choose to present it. And I will tease and joke with you about to my fullest ability. Please take care, Bill

  20. viveka says:

    Julie, it’s great to have you back on a daily basic ….. love your posts. Now is it me that are lost and all over the place – haven’t been able to focus on anything … with mom’s death and I haven’t been feeling good neither, have got some new problems .. and I hope it’s not related to the cancer, but I’m so worried …
    So glad that you understood what Ming really was saying and I think it’s great that he goes on his own now to visit Ant, he has matured a lot … your son.

  21. I remember the first time my first child drove on his own and I followed him! Just to make sure he was ok! That didn’t last for long and then I took advantage of his independence and him wanting to drive by asking him to do errands – shopping etc. Mostly it was great NOT having to take him here, there, and everywhere. Enjoy! ๐Ÿ™‚

  22. Ouch! Kids! But great news that he passed – and was happy to visit his dad.

  23. Going from L’s to P’s such a big strep in the life of anyone no matter how old, that freedom to be able to drive ones self around.

  24. I love how our children are so honest with their perception of life. Good on Ming for saying so, and good on you Jules for creating the bond that he could.
    It’s a freedom for both child and parent when the child is on their way to becoming a young adult and can drive. I thought it liberating when my both my daughter’s started driving.
    Like your daily diary style let me add. I like your reasoning.

  25. Judith Post says:

    Oh, your Ming reminds me of our Nathan. Nate has a way with honesty too, and he means his insights with kindness. Mostly, I take his comments in the spirit they were given…on good days:)

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