wings and things

A marriage proposal!

on January 24, 2016

After a couple of days of intense sleepiness, Ants was wide awake and alert today due to a visit from some favourite family members. It was magic!

Later, when it was just Ants and me, he mumbled something resembling “marriageable” and this was our conversation:

Me: What do you mean by marriageable?

Anthony: Well you know….

Me: So do you want to get married?

Anthony: Yes.

Me: But we ARE married!

[At this point Ants gave me one of his half-smiles]

Anthony: Yes, I know that.

Me: So do you want get married again?

Anthony: Not sure about the hundreds.

Me: Hundreds of what?

Anthony: Cameras.

Me: What? [I show him the TV remote]

Anthony: Yes, that’s it … for the wedding … hundreds ….

Me: So let me get this right: you want another wedding?

Anthony: Well, I have thought of it from time to time.

[So anyway I cracked up laughing at this typically Anthonyesque punch-line which of course got him smiling too.]

Me: I am not going through all of that rigmarole again, Ants – I hate wearing a skirt!

Okay, so recently I have begun to get a bit lazy with my visits to the nursing home to see Ants and other residents who I have become fond of. But, even a single day’s reprieve takes its toll in terms of guilt. Yes, I can do my own thing and not go into town, and be fine with that. But, after two days, it’s a bit like a ‘cold turkey’ situation. I miss Ants too much; I ring up when I can’t come in, to make sure he is okay. Most of the carers know now to tell him I will be in later.

In the past, Ants and I never had a hand-holding, smoochie-whoochie relationship; we were always quite restrained. Now, he holds my hand tightly (and the other day when he was unwakeable, he gripped my mothers’ hand when he was asleep – yes, I am a teensy bit jealous haha!)

Of course I will marry him again but only in a let’s pretend way. Why do I visit this man of mine so often, despite his illnesses? Because I love the way he loves me and vice-versa; pretty simple really.



44 responses to “A marriage proposal!

  1. ❤ pretty simple works for me ❤

  2. Very sweet Julie. ❤
    Diana xo

  3. tersiaburger says:

    Renew your marriage vows! It would be so romantic and after all yours is the ultimate love story! Lots of love Tersia

  4. Trisha says:

    A pretty simply amazing love story! It’s no wonder I haven’t felt the need to read any books lately with such a wonderful love story coming right to my inbox. 🙂

  5. tootlepedal says:

    It certainly seems a good reason to me too.

  6. susanpoozan says:

    Love conquers all?

  7. You’d come up with a delight of a private wedding – just the two of you 🙂

  8. The best love story ever Jules!

  9. His love for you comes through despite the disease and that makes me happy, I don’t know why it does it just does

  10. Terry says:

    I love your relationship with Ants. It is real and solid. Hey, I emailed you. If you don’t see it, email me at for some information

  11. Vicki says:

    That hand-holding sounds just so romantic (coming from a man who never really did that much publicly). 🙂

  12. That’s the best reason in the world to visit.

    And maybe you should marry him again. Have Ming officiate and do your vows. 🙂

  13. dogdaz says:

    Holding hands makes for a wonderful wedding for those of us already wed, I think. And yes, you go because you adore him and he, you. ❤

  14. Lynda says:

    I do like the idea suggested above by Chatter Master! Though I have a hard time imagining Ming agreeing to it. ❤ We redid our vows for our 25th. It was wonderful.

    So why do you do it? Out of love, devotion, respect, and joy. When he is present you get smiles, hand holding, and the bits that let you know how much you mean to him… and vice-versa. Your visits are rejuvenating for him and I am certain they comfort him.

    As for a day to yourself ~ OH YEAH! You need to recharge and take care of you too! ❤

  15. Rhonda says:

    Your love for each other is what most of us dream of, no joke. Why the powers that be cannot leave such a love alone and let you share your final sunsets in your own, natural, time, I do not know…but it makes for some pretty heated prayer sessions. I love your love and it will be what gets you through everything thrown in your path…what you two have is most rare.

  16. ksbeth says:

    pretty powerfully simple –

  17. Tina Schell says:

    I admire the size of both of your hearts.

  18. some things in life really are that beautifully simple. your love story is an example of what i would wish for every one of us.

  19. aFrankAngle says:

    This is precious, and you had me smiling.

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