I decided to edit out the following sentence from my ‘rage’ post of yesterday: “Of course none of those professionals really care, do they.”
That was a dreadful overgeneralization for which I apologize. The focus of my rage was on the doctor who did not return my calls for three weeks and who took just as long to even refer Anthony to the surgeon.
Now Anthony is on the urgent list for cancellations. It’s a public holiday today so tomorrow I will ring the surgeon’s office and ask if there are any cancellations and then I will just keep ringing until it happens.
I will not panic. It is not an emergency so the hospital idea is out.
Most of the professionals who have looked after Anthony, and continue to look after him, are wonderful, caring people.
jmgoyder 
A little rage is good for a girl. And I could tell who it was aimed at, and it seems appropriate. And even if it wasn’t, I’d still be angry and frustrated in your place. But you’re very nice to be ever so specific.
Yes sometimes rage feels rather good!
i am so sorry you are going through this alone, but i know the feeling and am hanging out here with you. as long as i am here, u r never truly alone my friend
Ditto to you my friend.
thank u my friend
You have the most tender heart in the world!
Not when I’m angry – haha!
Hang in there Julie. Been keeping your family in my prayers every night.
Thank you my friend!
No need for apologies. You have every right in the world to be frustrated and angry 🙂
No need to apologise I knew what you meant and you have a right to feel frustrated and pissed off……….
Yep, you were just hurting for your darling hubby and feeling so frustrated. So hoping you get an open door for Anthony tomorrow.
Me too!
I’m sorry, dear one. Just say it and get it over with! Then apologize. That’s what I do. It always makes me feel better! 🙂 XO
Yes!
Hi sweetie~
I read rage too but opted to reply to just one Hope you do not mind. I have become quite adept at dealing with the ones who happen to be sob’s.(standard operating bastards) Gotcha huh?
Doctors treating patients and their families as insignificant. It is a sign that a doctor foolishly believes he no longer needs his patients. Especially surgeons who are notorious for no bed side behavior at all. And maybe that is true for this surgeon too.
I truly hope you do not mind I express this I am angry! Does this man even think about his patients and their families? No. not even. I hate unsolicited advice and usually will hold my own tongue because I know how awkward it can be. So just listen please and you do not even need to reply to me. ;=)
Its so hard to know what to do. If you make them angry who pays? if you don’t stand up & demand they treat this with a bit more dignity you & Ants both suffer and pay. You are both suffering all ready and this guy does not care. Raging!! It makes me so mad. Now I am feeling rage. Common decency should be able to be expected by everyone for everyone. Regardless of anything!!
One thing I would do when he does make an appearance, the great God-is ask is there some other way that you can be sure to have some way of contacting him, or the doctor who is covering for him. He should have some other doctor on call covering his fanny while he is away” And he should not have any issue with giving you this information You are not asking for much.
I have discovered the less nasty I am which is so hard in a case like this. (Really hard, nothing makes me madder than children, our severely ill, and elderly being abused and neglected. I see raging red fire) And the medical community know it and doctors who are egocentric use it. That makes me even furious.
But my defense has been the more quietly assertive I am the more it knocks them off their even keel; They don’t expect a calm rationale women in that kind of scenario. I love.. love..to keep THEM guessing. When they don’t know how I am going react I find they are not sure of them selves any more. I figure out what is the least amount of information I can work with and then work my questions up from that point. I always start though with that basic question first because they are going to shut down on you fast anyway – so get in there with what you really need to know first. Its less frustrating when you have to walk away because they are done.
I truly am a piece of work because I get such a big kick out of it a kick out of messing with them. I sugar coat every question till its dripping in honey. For them to ignore me, to not give me say a contact number would look awful on their part. They’d look like the asses they are..I also always do this with other people about if possible, Nurses are perfect or front office staff. Go to the nurses station and wait for the doctor there. If its one you need to see often learn his/her routine and meet up with him or her. They staff & nurses know what is going on, and not always in agreement with their employer. In fact if you are upset by lack of treatment you can count on so are the nurses. make them you allies.
See I am awful at times.. shh… my alter ego I suspect, yes? “-) Don’t tell a soul
They should just not mess with my people ~ BB deep sigh….
This is wonderful advice BB! ‘honey dripping’ assertiveness – I love it! I will do it tomorrow (public hol. today). I am very tempted to say, ‘The Barefoot Baroness sent me’ and see what the reaction is haha!
You have cheered me up no end. I was feeling hopeless about the situation – now I have some armour thanks to you!
Jules you are peach! I thank you my friend for saying such great things Yes, you sick the Baroness title on those peons! { Did I just really say that? } OMGoD!! Cheekiness taking over.
Seriously my friend I am happy that there was something out of the novel I sent you that you found relatable.. lol..
Remember they are working for you, not the other way around. And you are a doctor too love so introduce yourself as one.
…. and then shine on every annoying thing they do. Until you get the info needed. then holy hell…. look out!
If need be I am on the next plane and we will do some serious kicking butt to the curb.
You tell them they best not make me come over there!
My love & hugs always Jules to all three of you ~ BB
Thanks Cheeky Cherub (aka BB) – I just can’t do that Dr Goyder thing – ha!
You are amaxing!
it does feel like that sometimes – so I understand your statement — I have had great luck with some and not so great with others – they are just people, and we, and they need to understand tis
So true – thank you!
Rage acts as impetus. It’s not necessarily bad when it’s about something that really matters.
Grrrr!!!
I hope he gets the surgery he needs soon Julie — and sometimes, all we can do is rage if only to release the fear and anger and anguish within — you are incredibly brave!
It’s ok to be angry and vent, even better when you can center and gain perspective the following day. Sending good thoughts, hope, and peace for Anthony, and for you.
Thank you so much!
Oh dear I didn’t know this, I hope and wish everything to go well for you both, peace and love, nia,
I am sorry to hear Anthony needs surgery. I will be praying you get a cancellation space.
No worries over venting and generalizations. We all do it, especially when the well-being of a loved one hangs in the balance. Be kind to yourself. No need for apologies.
Julie, rage is necessary for our heart and soul at times – nothing to apologize for … it was all about frustration, feelings and worries. Glad that things are moving in the right directions and that you have got a little peace.
Thanks lovely Viveka!
Julie,
I understand your frustration. It is hard to stand by and feel helpless to do what needs doing in the face of a bureaucracy. Even if it is a bureaucracy of one (said Dr.). I have been reading, but have been disciplining myself to get some work done. But I had to speak up on this one!
Sending prayer and hugs for you, Anthony, and Ming.
Love you,
Lynda
You are a gem Lynda!
i can’t tell you how many times over the years patients and their families have given me an earful and i would do two things. first i would ask myself if there was some truth to their accusations, and second to ask if there was anything i could do to help. it is completely understandable that you would become angry at a situation you felt you had no control over. you are so responsible and caring this is the very thing that would send you in to this rage. anger is a good emotion. people are always ashamed or try to be so careful about not getting angry when it is a perfectly good and necessary emotion.
so you are in good mental health:) sorry you felt so bad about it!
What you say about rage is so reassuring – I was getting a bit worried about burgeoning anger!
Glad to hear your anger paid off in getting something moving. That’s great! Hope there’s a cancellation soon!
Tomorrow – yay!
That’s terrific! Keep us posted.