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An argument with my mother’s bicycle

on April 4, 2013

My mother has now been in hospital for 12 days since falling off her bicycle and fracturing her pelvis in two places and her wrist in three places. She will be in hospital for at least another week – maybe more.

I want to go back to the moment my mother got onto her bicycle and I want to yell NO! After all, she’s 78, and had only just recovered from a hip fracture from a fall just before Christmas.

But I can’t go back and stop her from getting onto that bicycle. Instead she and I are going forward, step by step, to recovery. It has been 12 days of pain for my mother, stress for me, and hatred for that bicycle.

Good news: My mother no longer minds being blogged about and says thank you to those who wished her well. I echo this.

Bad news: Tomorrow I am going to stop arguing with my mother’s bicycle and simply smash it up!


78 responses to “An argument with my mother’s bicycle

  1. But what if getting back on the bike is her motivation to recovery? (Just a thought!) I hope she heals well and quickly!!!!

  2. hugr5 says:

    When I saw the subject line, I wanted to get online and tell you that I LOVE the title of this entry! It sounds like a good name for a story, or book.

    However, reading the entry changed my mood.

    My mother was an avid bicyclist into her 70’s. She also fell off her bike and broke her hip – twice. She was a stubborn, resilient woman.

    I still admire her.

  3. If you were closer we’d come and help you.

  4. What if you made the bicycle into a stationary bicycle? You can’t fall off and it does make for good exercise. I know that it’s not as pleasant as the great outdoors but if you could put it on a veranda or near a window. Just thinking out loud and trying to save a poor bicycle’s life in the process. 🙂

  5. Oh Julie, don’t smash it up. Give it away. Hope she recovers well.

  6. janechese says:

    I am glad that your mother is now ok with you blogging about her.Training wheels, maybe? I know she will want to kill me for that. There has got to be an alternative mode of travel with a better balanced system.

  7. lucewriter says:

    Please send her my best wishes from Arizona! What a great attitude toward life she’s got!

  8. I don’t blame you — glad you mom is on her way back–but it sounds excruciating–give her my love and (((hugs))) and here is some for you (((hugs)))

  9. How wonderful to have a mother so active that she was riding a bicycle at the age of 78!
    I hope that she recovers soon.

  10. Trisha says:

    I can see why you hate that bicycle – two falls in such a short time. After my bicycle crash (a long time ago), I hurled my bicycle into the ditch, then walked, limping and bleeding all the way home.

  11. Very touching, who can fight against a stubborn (yet very charming) mother?

  12. Sending much love to you and your Mum! Maybe you could donate her bicycle to a worthy cause… Just don’t try and eat it, bite by bite. Although I hear that eating bicycles is very fashionable these days.

  13. adinparadise says:

    Wishing your intrepid mom a speedy recovery. Maybe you need to put trainer wheels on the back of the bike. 🙂

  14. jensine says:

    NOOOOO don’t smash up the bicycle …a nd say hi to your mum and get well soon

  15. mrs fringe says:

    Yikes! Sending good thoughts of quick healing for your mother, and peace for you. I’ll keep my bicycle thoughts to myself 😉

  16. mimijk says:

    I wish her the speediest of recoveries and some renewed sanity for you..;-)

  17. viveka says:

    My grandma was the same about her bike .. she was on the bike until she was 83 … then she walked the bike for her shopping … for other 4 years. I really hope that your mum will recover into good shape and maybe she will consider not getting on the bike again, so give the bike a break until she has recovered. Wish you mum … good recovery from me.

  18. diannegray says:

    I hope your mother recovers quickly (I think she’s pretty brave for getting on the bicycle in the first place) – live life to the fullest I say 😉

  19. Oh that made me laugh ….thank you I needed one!….the part about smashing the bike of course… I do wish your Mom a good recovery….Diane

  20. Just don’t hurt yourself smashing it up!

  21. niasunset says:

    My best wishes for your mother dear Julie…

  22. I’m so sorry your mother got hurt. I hope she makes a quick recovery. I have to admire her… riding a bicycle at 78. That’s amazing. Love, Gloria :)))

  23. tootlepedal says:

    Don’t smash bikes. It’s not the solution.

  24. terry1954 says:

    I was reading with such interest on her healing and then u made me laugh with the remark about smashing it up!!!!!

  25. dcwisdom says:

    Maybe just take the chain off? I’d hate to see a good bike bite the dust. (I guess I should not weigh in on this since I shot a rooster. haha) Sending my best get well wishes to Mom.

  26. Why wait until tomorrow!? Hope your mom heals up real quick!
    xo
    Diana

  27. sbcallahan says:

    maybe that is the good news:) at least she won’t be able to get on it again any time soon!!

    wishing you both well and maybe this is a warning for you also dear woman

  28. My mother is only 73 but there is no bloody way she would get on a bike………………so even though your poor mum had a fall and is in pain it was awesome that she got on it to start with. I do hope her pain reduces sooner rather then later

  29. bulldog says:

    Get rid of the Bike… it seems a dangerous thing for Mom…

  30. She’s amazing Julie 🙂 May we live as long and healthy enough to contemplate bike riding.

  31. You’d better ask your mother first: she may not be ready to become the child in your relationship.

  32. She may need a trike instead.

  33. Monica says:

    Your mother has an indomitable spirit. Best wishes for a speedy recovery!

  34. victoriaaphotography says:

    Your wouldn’t really smash up your Mother’s bicycle would you?
    It’s probably one of the fun things she does which keeps her young.

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