wings and things


on May 15, 2013

Just checking in halfway through my blogbreak. Thanks to all for comments on last few posts – I really appreciate it and had intended to reply, sorry!

I’ve temporarily unsubscribed from most blogs to give myself a break, but will get back eventually I hope.

It’s just that I am so sad at the moment, about Anthony, because of how fast the dementia is happening now.

Ming, Gutsy9 and I are all fine which somehow seems wrong. I miss Anthony so much.

85 responses to “Thanks!

  1. paulaacton says:

    I know for the rest of you that it is so very hard but it some ways for him it is a blessing that it is going quickly, my gran has had slow onset dementia for several years and it is so hard watching her struggle to remember the simplest things and to see her fearful and paranoid, my mother in law works in a care home and has said that for several of the people she cares for that once dementia has set in they are at more peace than those still concious of what is going on it is just so terrible for those who have to lose the person they knew

    • jmgoyder says:

      I agree – this limboland is the worst phase and, though debatable, I think fullblown dementia might be a relief – dunno. Thanks, Paula.

  2. shoreacres says:

    I’m so happy to see your post – thanks for giving us a “wave”. It’s good to know you’re well – Ming and Gutsy9, too. Life sometimes sets its own course, and all we can do is cope from day to day. I think of you often, and hope you’re doing well. Sometimes I haven’t commented, but I’m always reading along.

  3. Do not know how to comfort you other than to let you know we miss you and hope that things become easier for you–sometimes acceptance of a bad situation is the only way to get through it–easier said than done though….((((hugs))))

  4. Glad to hear from you Julie, been thinking about you all over there… x annie

  5. viveka says:

    Great to hear from you … and that you’r boys .. are doing fine. Enjoy your break … !!!!
    I understand that you miss Ant – here comes a big comfort hug. *smile – be good to yourself.

  6. I think this must be one of the hardest things — to watch someone you love and have to stand by helplessly as they disappear thought by thought. My thoughts and prayers are with you all Julie. Hugs my friend.

  7. Thanks for the update. Take as long as you need – you have priorities and this isn’t one of them.

  8. Rhonda says:

    {{{hugs}}} thinking of you all the time

  9. bulldog says:

    Keep up a good spirit Julie… we are praying for you and Ant…

  10. Your last sentence says so much. Somehow it seems wrong to be ‘happy’ when there is someone in your life that you care about or ‘love’ that is struggling so!…I hope you find some comfort and peace somehow in these days that you face.You are in my thoughts and prayers…Diane

  11. Soooo sorry, Julie. I can only imagine what a tough time this is. I watched my grandmother wage a long struggle with this disease–it’s a *nightmare*. Please take care of *yourself*.

  12. I feel for you, Julie. It must be so difficult to see Anthony this way. I wish you strength as you make your way through this painful journey. Hugs.

  13. Oh Julie, my thoughts and prayers are with you. (((HUGS)))

  14. Terry says:

    I so wish I could be there to give you a big hug. Never a day goes by when I do not think about the three of you. I miss you and always keep in mind, my heart and prayers are with you. Love you my friend. If you ever need to talk, I am always here

  15. I know it is different with it being your husband, but I also feel so sad with my mom. My sisters moved her to a nursing home instead of assisted care, and the move has disoriented her even more than the normal stuff. Her “friend” in the other place was a daily relationship, and now she has another man who she says is the same man–they just call him by a different name here! So sad. And I am so far away and can’t even have a real conversation with her. Dementia is a horrible waste. I feel sadness for you.

  16. mrs fringe says:

    Peace and prayers, for all three of you ❀

  17. Debbie says:

    Thinking of you often. Glad to hear from you, but yes, I’m very sad about Anthony. I’m sorry. Sending you BIG Texas love across the waves…Never forget you have a fan club out here! πŸ™‚ XO

  18. niasunset says:

    I am glad to hear you dear Julie, Love and Hugs, nia

  19. I’m so sorry for your missing Ants, dementia is a cruel disease. I send wishes your way for comfort and peace, for all of you.

  20. Kozo Hattori says:

    {{{hugs}}} Julie. I can feel how you are torn between two worlds. You are the bridge. Stay strong. Kozo

  21. Missing you….but you need the time away. Prayers β™₯

  22. I have been thinking of you lately hell I often think of you when I go and visit my nan………..I do not like hearing that you are still feeling sad………

  23. Hope you find moments in your day that brings you comfort. Hugs to you.

  24. Fergiemoto says:

    I’m so sorry, Julie. A break is certainly understandable, and necessary.

  25. You realize that we are counting down the days and will be bombarding you with comments if you don’t return to the blogworld after this month, right?

  26. WordsFallFromMyEyes says:

    Good for you, Julie πŸ™‚

    I think to subscribe to too many can be overwhelming. I know this is weird, but I do feel “a weight” when I get too many emails!! I much, much prefer visiting people at my leisure, rather than because they posted that day…. and it’s been in my inbox 5 days… and I owe them a read… ! I fully understand πŸ™‚

    Blogging ought be a pleasure, or you’re doing it wrong!

  27. adinparadise says:

    Good to see you again, Julie. You’ve been in my mind often. πŸ™‚ Hugs

  28. elizabeth says:

    Julie, you do whatever it is that helps you get through this painful time. I just got back from a month with my beloved mother. She cried everyday. Just tears pouring down her face, and she not able to say why. Dementia is heartbreaking for all concerned.

    I pray the Lord will bless and keep you all in His wonderful loving care and comfort you every night and every day.

    • jmgoyder says:

      Oh, Elizabeth, I am so sorry to hear of your mother’s tears. Isn’t there a doctor who can help with this?

      • elizabeth says:

        The doctor took blood Julie and Mum tested with very low potassium so they’ve put her on liquid potassium. We’re hoping that was the cause. She’s not crying as much now. I’ll let you know. Love and hugs. πŸ™‚

  29. Take care, Julie. Loads of love to you all.

  30. tersiaburger says:

    My dear Julie – I was so happy to see your quick update. I am so sad for your sorrow and where your journey is taking you. Thank you for your compassion and friendship. I have nominated you for the Wonderful Team Member Award. I hope you will accept. If you don’t that is fine! Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

  31. Judy says:

    Julie, I don’t know what to say except I am thinking of you. You are in my heart and what you are going through is heartbreaking. One day, you will put those pieces back together. But for right now, you are putting one foot in front of the other. Hang in there.

  32. Robyn Lee says:

    Just thinking of you Julie. Praying you are hanging in ok. Deep breaths and please take care of you. You and family are all in my heart. Huge Hug and Love ~ x Rboyn

  33. Jo Woolf says:

    Sending you the kindest wishes, Julie.

  34. Been thinking of you a lot today. Hope you all are okay. Sending you good thoughts, Julie.

  35. I’m sending more positive thoughts and best wishes from across the ocean.

  36. It is a hard time for you and there are probably no words of mine that can give you comfort. thought i would let you know that I have been thinking of you Julie.

  37. All the words of encouragement I try to put together seem woefully insufficient. You, Ants and Ming are often in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing there was something, anything, I or any of us could do to help. Be kind and gentle to yourself. You are only human.

  38. tersiaburger says:

    My dear Julie, I woke up this morning with so much pain in my heart. I thought of you and your journey literally as I opened my eyes. I miss you and your words. I wish I had words of solace and healing for you. Your journey is a lonely one. Lots of love and hugs dear friend.

    • jmgoyder says:

      Your comment here is so generous, considering what you are going through, Tersia! I am grateful for our friendship and your wisdom. I will get back to blogging in next day or so xxx

  39. janeslog says:

    Take everything one day at a time. Life can be very difficult and cruel at times. You have to carry on even if you feel like crying most of the time.

    Think of the happy times because you must have had many of these and try and not to spend too much time thinking of the sad things that are happening just now. Try and laugh – I watch Mr Bean sketches on YouTube when I feel sad and he makes me laugh. Takes me away from my troubles for a while.

  40. Tomorrow is June 1st, you know. No pressure…

  41. I’m so sorry that Parkinsons has stolen so much from you. I don’t know how you cope with it everyday. I send you thoughts of love, peace and acceptance.

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