Me: I know you’re probably a bit sick of me talking about your headstone (I know Ming is!) but I do feel a sense of relief to have at least begun the process.
Anthony: I’m not sick of it at all, Jules. I really enjoy our conversations about me.
Me: Oh, okay … you are unbelievable!
Anthony: I think your choice of ruby red granite shows extremely good taste.
Me: So did you check it out?
Anthony: It reminds me of the time I chose the colour red for the Aga.
Me: Yes – me too! I mean it reminds me of the Aga. What about the white lettering? I know you love white so….
Anthony: Perfect.
Me: It was so interesting chatting with the company’s representative, as we roamed around the cemetery, because she showed me details I might otherwise have missed.
Anthony: And?
Me: I told her that you liked clean lines even though you were a bit rough around the edges yourself. I told her that you were a bit of a paradox.
Anthony: You flatter me.
Me: That wasn’t a compliment, Ants.
Anthony: What does Ming think?
Me: Sorry to disappoint you, Ants, but I don’t think Ming could care less at the moment. He is busy, very busy, with his two jobs and his quest.
Anthony: What quest?
Me: I think he is looking for the kind of love we had, Ants.
Anthony: Ah, that explains a lot; he is searching for the impossible….
Me: And the implausible?
Anthony: Ming is MING – he is unapologetically himself always. I’ve never seen anything like it!
Me: I know, Ants, and I often wonder how we produced a son who has more strength of character then either of us ever had.
Anthony: You don’t have to always figure everything out, Jules, especially when it comes to Ming.
Me: Ming is the best, most genuine, person in my life, Ants, and he cares about me.
Anthony: Let Ming go, Jules – let him find his own way and stop interfering.
Me: Okay.
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What a beautiful way to come to the realization of the need to let go.
And can I just say, when two amazing people come together, their joint amazingness creates someone even more amazing because that someone is a combination of the best of them. Like Ming. ❤
Thanks for understanding me, Louise because it means a lot. I have been struggling lately.
This was just so lovely and well said
I wish Ming good luck with his quest.