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The gobbling of grief

on December 17, 2012

I cannot stand the media’s insatiable hunger for grief.

Misinformation and appalling inaccuracies are rife in the ruthless hunt for drama.

Tears are vultured into the camera and disseminated via a thousand sites.

This ghoulish gobbling of grief makes me sick, but I still watch and wait and wonder.


48 responses to “The gobbling of grief

  1. oh, this is so well said.

  2. shoreacres says:

    The great irony is that, in their rush to document gain ratings from violence, the media perpetrates their own form of violence against the families, the friends, and all of us. I am sick of the media and their agendae.

    The truth is, more gun laws or better enforcement of existing laws will do nothing to solve the basic problem: a violence saturated culture egged on by Hollywood, celebrities and the politicians themselves.

  3. viveka says:

    You have my vote on this one … let the families deal with their grief and lost in peace.

  4. Robyn Lee says:

    Yes and then I think the public becomes numb to these tragedies — like the media causes ‘immunity’ of some nature… sad 😦

  5. This is so, so true. I watched a reporter shove a microphone in some poor woman’s face yesterday and ask her how she felt watching parents come to find out whether or not their child had survived! My God, how did he * think* she felt?

  6. Tammy says:

    well put, dear, well put. You have a way with words.

  7. The sad truth is that media wouldn’t do this if there wasn’t such a hunger for it. I still watch too. It’s my fault too. We call it rubbernecking here…you know when you pass the scene of an accident and slow down to look…no matter how gruesome?

    Can I/we stop it? Can I/we give the families privacy? Does it lay in my/our power to do so? I think maybe it does….

  8. FlaHam says:

    Julie, You said it very well. Take care, Bill

  9. FlaHam says:

    Julie, You summed it up very well. Take care, Bill

  10. Talk about exploitation!

  11. artsifrtsy says:

    Hunger for grief – that nails it. I shut off the news yesterday. We have to stop feeding the monster

  12. magentmama says:

    It was horrible watching the media going after the grieving people. I couldn’t believe it when I saw the news here in Sicily. Poor little children!

  13. And, in the meantime, other disturbed individuals jealously watch the media attention and fame that the killer receives, and begin to plot their own sick immortality.

  14. That was so eloquently put Jules.

  15. janeslog says:

    Its the way the media works now. Fuelled by celebrity magazines where celebrities play out every aspect of their lives including happy and sad events.

    Grief makes good headlines and photographs.

  16. terry1954 says:

    me too Julie, I sit and watch and tears do fall for those poor victims, but the news has to leave nothing private for the survivors and this is sad. you have still not received the box? I have no way of tracking it since it is international. i do know that it left the U.S. on the 12th

  17. victoriaaphotography says:

    I agree Julie.

    I’m mostly given up watching the news and never read newspapers anymore (I’d rather be ignorant).

    Let families, friends and in fact, the whole community, grieve in peace in the face of tragedy.

    And ditto to Shoreacres comment….”a violence saturated culture egged on by Hollywood, celebrities and the politicians themselves”.

    Society needs to get to the root of the problem with the Government putting more funds and resources into Health and identifying/diagnosing and treating mental problems. What makes people so unbalanced that they resort to these horrific acts. Stamp out and censor games of violence too.

    The media should be glorifying acts of Humanity (instead of brutality), congratulating acts of Kindness (instead of highlighting acts of aggression), encouraging a Sense of Community (instead of supporting war, violence, greed and material wealth).

    Perhaps there should be a day of Loving Kindness across the World, just to give the aggressors a taste of Freedom from Anger & Aggression.

    What happened to “Make Love (not War)?”

  18. diannegray says:

    They’re like vultures waiting to pluck the eyes out of the dead…

  19. dcwisdom says:

    The American press is blood thirsty. My older daughter worked for a major radio station in Dallas, and their unofficial motto was “if it bleeds, it leads.” Sickening. And the “Community Organizer” is right there in the middle of it. Another photo op. The media hype makes me sick. They have truly exploited the poor families and glorified the entire vile act. I hate it that America has stooped so low.

    I’m with Victoria and others who have are turning off the media. Maybe the media’s goal is to desensitize and bore us with all the gore so we won’t watch and search out the truth about what is really happening in America – the attack on capitalism, patriotism, and God, and the push toward communism and socialism. These are sad days in America.

  20. pixilated2 says:

    You are not alone in these feelings, Julie. “If it bleeds it leads.” It is a line from a movie satire on the network news, but it is so true.

    On Friday Bob came home and said, “Have you seen the news today?” I said, “No, what has happened?” He just told me not to turn it on and then explained it to me. And of course I turned it on… it’s like watching a train wreck. You simply can’t look away. 😐

    It is disgusting. ~Lynda

  21. Oh we are so with you there. Can’t they find some wonder and beauty to talk about? We are all sad about what happened but talking about it all over and over and over is just too much. They have nothing better to do with their time, because they are no longer allowed to report what is really happening all over the world.

  22. melissakoski says:

    I absolutely refuse to watch and participate. I don’t watch the news either as part of my vow to no longer live in fear and terror of life.

  23. Trisha says:

    It is terrible the way the press hounds grieving families. It makes me sick. I kept my TV turned off as much as possible this weekend, partially for my own health. I feel very stressed any time I hear more about what happened. My heart is pounding uncomfortably right now….

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