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Dementia dialogues 7

on October 4, 2016

Me: Why were you so horrible to me yesterday?

Anthony: Because you wouldn’t take me home to see Mum!

Me: I’m sorry, Ants – it’s just that ….

Anthony: And, by the way, Jules – Mum is not dead!


14 responses to “Dementia dialogues 7

  1. Hugs ….. it’s so difficult. When my dad has his stroke he was in the same place mentally – only he insisted on wanting to walk across the hall to his office from 1945.

    Love to you, all of you – and strength …

  2. thanks for sharing Julie, I hope it gets better. I just heard that one of my patients who had dementia complicating his Downs Syndrome died last wee. It made me sad but then I thought that it makes it OK for him now. I believe in Christ and an after life. He will not leave us comfortless

  3. susanpoozan says:

    That’s a tricky one.

  4. Trisha says:

    That must be so hard. I wish you much strength!

  5. Judy says:

    Julie, this is so upsetting. You cannot argue with dementia and reason with him. You need hugs and I wish it were easier.

  6. jensine says:

    difficult I am sure – but there is beauty in the fact that he thinks his mum is alive, some sort of innocence

  7. You are brilliant for sharing these Julie. It must be a source of information, and comfort, for those going through the same things.

  8. I love how you treasure his words, whether they make sense or not, and honour his love with every word you share. ❤

  9. Maybe he knows something we don’t Jules…maybe death like birth is simply a transition… ❤
    Diana xo

  10. Vicki says:

    This is a difficult one, Julie. How to talk around the reality.

  11. tersiaburger says:

    My grandmother died 9 months before my dad…every day he would ask to phone her or see her. AT first I told him she had died. He would become very distressed. We would try and divert his attention – it always worked. An hour later dad would ask for his mom again. .. I eventually realised that every time I told him she had died he would go into mourning. Distract him and he would forget…. it wasn’t worth the pain being honest. I would distract ds and if he was persistent tell him that his mom was out shopping. … it is hard Jules. You have my love.

  12. Maybe he doesn’t think she is dead because she visits him, nanna said that Uncle Ronnie has been to visit her a couple of times recently, he died a few months ago and when alive only went to the nursing home twice to see her in 6 years.

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