wings and things

“I love you” variations

on April 29, 2016

I say this so often to Anthony that he has developed some rather cynical responses:

Me: I love you!
Anthony: Yes, I know.
Me: I LOVE youuuuuu!
Anthony: So you keep saying.
Me: Oh but I absolutely adoringly love you to the moon!
Anthony: Jules, shut up!
Me: But Ants, I love your big nose, your wide eyes, your weird ears!
Anthony: Your hair looks better.
Me: What?
Anthony: Stop fumbling.

I love him – I love our conversations, often full of mirth, irony, nonsense, joy, mystery and a strange sort of hope. Of course it wasn’t always like this; over the years it has been a very difficult transition from home to nursing home. Sometimes Anthony thinks he has just arrived so we have to go through the same initial conversation again.

What most amazes me is Anthony’s acceptance of what is. He has always been able to do this and is much better at going-with-the-flow than I am, and, incredibly, has never suffered depression. That illness seems to be mine alone and has been for some time and Ants sustains me with his incredible sense of humour.

Anthony: So why are you so down?

Me: What? Why do you think? You’re in a nursing home, Ming is down in the dumps, and I still haven’t produced that blockbuster novel.

Anthony: Don’t worry so much. I cleared the shed out and re-painted it and it looks wonderful.

Me: When did you do that?

Anthony: Yesterday.

Me: Well no wonder you’re exhausted!

Anthony: Jules?

Me: What now?

Anthony: I love you too.








17 responses to ““I love you” variations

  1. ksbeth says:

    i love these love exchanges between you two –

  2. What Laurie and ksbeth said. me too!

  3. You know what I think …. love you too, Jules!

  4. Judy says:

    Aw… What Anthony said “sheds” a light on his love for you. He imagines how he can be helpful even when he’s confused. So beautiful. Touching and sad. So much love, but when you leave the nursing home – you are longing for the life you once had with him. The family of the “patient” suffers so much more.

  5. Lisa Rest says:

    Wonderful dialogue…have you thought of a play, eventually? I’m not trying to be funny, I am sincere. Or maybe it’s just that I’ve gone to a few plays lately, but these exchanges are priceless, and thank you, Julie, for sharing them.

  6. tersiaburger says:

    Yours is the ultimate love story. I love you too my precious cyber friend

  7. jensine says:

    that is so lovely

  8. Trisha says:

    I love reading about these conversations!

  9. Got to love the both of you!

  10. Anthony likes to give you a hard time. Love it! You’re gathering all the material you’ll ever need for your blockbuster.

  11. Thank you for making me smile

  12. Tiny says:

    LOVE these exchanges, Julie. There is so much love, silent understanding, humor and mystery in them.

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