A few weeks ago Ming and I were having one of our on-the-front-veranda- philosophical discussions. I think it was nearly dusk but the sunset was around the corner of the house so I could only see it at an angle. This kind of experience reminds me of when my mother used to take us outside at dusk to look at the stars when my brothers and I were little.
I don’t look up enough into the sky’s various renditions; instead, I watch the loop of my internet feed, the news, blogs, my own constantly-halting story about Anthony’s Parkinson’s disease. Sometimes I feel inept, indolent; sometimes I feel an almost volcanic eruption joy after just sitting with Anthony for hours, holding his hand, stroking his head – just being with him.
Anyway, during the philosophical discussion mentioned above, I cry-laughed the story of how hurt I was by various situations and people over the last few months. “But do any of these things/people matter to you anymore, Mum?” Ming asked.
And all of a sudden, I realised that I was unnecessarily worrying about stuff/people/situations that, despite being an intractable part of the past, simply didn’t matter to me anymore. It was a revelation!
As Ming’s wisdom permeated my rather dusty psyche, I felt an enormous sense of relief and gratitude for the things/people and situations that DO matter to me.
Okay this is my last sentimental post about Ming for the time being, but he really is the most amazing person. Today this was our conversation:
Me: You are the best person I have ever met, Ming.
Ming: You didn’t meet me, Mum, you created me!
It’s nearing dusk and I am going outside to look at the sky.
jmgoyder 
well he is right – I know the nature/nurture debate but in both cases you have helped create who he is
What a precious special person you created.
Sometimes the young see life much clearer than we think.
I try hard, (not always successfully), to accept that the past is gone. I can’t change it and therefore there’s no point dwelling there.
I also try to remember that the future hasn’t happened yet so there’s no point worrying about that either.
I try and live in the moment. It’s here, today, and what I think and do, is really what counts.
We need more Mings in the world that’s for sure.
isn’t it amazing that the ones we create are sometimes our best teachers? it’s as if they are a little bit of ourselves that tell us what is in our hearts and minds but we forget at times –
De-cluttering is all the rage these days: and rightly so. Most of us have too much “stuff.” But an emotional and psychological de-cluttering is just as important. We have the freedom to simply toss views, values, relationships, etc., that no longer are healthy or helpful. And “tossing” doesn’t have to imply hurt feelings or conflict. When I find a blog that no longer interests me, for example, it’s easy enough to simply stop reading, rather than continuing on through some weird sense of obligation. If a friend’s snarkiness or negativity begins to turn me into a snarky, negative person, moving away for a while is fine.
That’s my wisdom on the subject. Happy sky-watching!
Wow..love this kid!!
We need more Mings.
I am so thankful you have Ming to cling to. He is a God send
I hope that you saw a brilliant display in the heavens.
I love those kind of conversations-such insight and Ahah! moments.
Wise words from Ming indeed
Last nights sky was particularly lovely with the full moon shining. Wasn’t it? š
I love this š x
This is so proud of, you are so nice both. Blessing and Happiness, Thank you, Love, nia
I am so happy for you that Ming is able to give so much back to you as a wonderful young adult.